To reach an orgasm at all so it is simple - if you the woman! Almost all men without effort reach an orgasm with any partner, however women are arranged differently. However, the most regrettable at all it, and that to the overwhelming majority of men and women this fact remains to unknown persons.

Let's look to the truth in eyes - all books, films and in particular magazines for girls and women draw rather tempting picture, representing women constantly raised sexly attractive beings always ready to sex and without effort reaching orgasm. A problem that this representation at all does not correspond to the validity.

Therefore for the women mismatching this image, - that is for the majority - such divergence between the representation imposed to mass-media about the modern woman and a reality can appear rather painful.

The large quantity of young women worries because of own disability to reach an orgasm. However the matter is that, unlike men, the majority of women needs for it to study.

Results of our research testify that the majority of women manages to reach an orgasm only in some years after the beginning of a sex life.

If to you 20 - 30

Even in twenty and thirty years many women cannot catch an illusive dark blue bird of an orgasm. Today the majority of sexologists believe, that disability to reach an orgasm (or problems with orgasm achievement) should push the woman to «independent exercises».

Well, this obvious decision, however many women even remain today diffident enough openly to recognise, that are engaged in a masturbation, and consider itself guilty of something very shameful. Know: the masturbation helps to learn precisely, what pressure and a rhythm is necessary to you to reach an orgasm. In particular, you need to investigate own body precisely to learn, how to stimulate a clitoris.

Yes, the masturbation helps you to learn more about an orgasm, however it is important to remember what to indulge in love with itself the most important thing, in loneliness follows in the comfortable and relaxed situation, and. Education of love to own body and research of the female essence should cause only positive and pleasant sensations, and it is impossible, if someone is torn in your bedroom or a bathroom, demanding immediately to leave and be engaged in supper preparation!

Having learnt without effort to reach an orgasm, you can tell and show to the partner, what exactly is necessary for you to come to finish.

If to you for 30

By then, when to you for 30, 40 or 50 you should learn without effort to reach an orgasm - certainly, near to the loving and careful partner.

However it is not necessary to forget, that at the majority of women ability to reach an orgasm strongly depends on a menstrual cycle. For the woman normally to feel special sex excitation in the middle of a menstrual cycle. However, some women worry excitation peak directly ahead of the menses beginning. Others notice, that are absolutely not inclined to sex during some periods of a cycle. And all it is absolutely normal.

However, if to you for 30, and you can count orgasms on fingers of one arm, that time to address for the help to the expert - to the doctor-sexologist.

Orgasm types

Thanks to Freud, the father-founder of a psychoanalysis, among men there is a delusion as if vaginal orgasms are characteristic for mature women while clitoral orgasms are more extended among young women.

Now this opinion is denied. Many sexologists confirm today - and usual women with them are solidary - that the difference between a vaginal and clitoral orgasm is unknown to them.

As a rule, women cannot reach an orgasm without clitoris stimulation, whether it be in the course of the sex act or a masturbation.

On the other hand, some women are assured, that can "terminate" without any additional stimulation of a clitoris, and assert, that an orgasm source - a vagina. However many sexologists consider, that in the course of sex in any case there is a stimulation of a clitoris which is delayed from top to bottom or is triturated by a man's body.

Yes, also do not forget about a G-point. Some women worry especially bright orgasm at stimulation of this point (which you can find without assistance on a forward wall of a vagina). Really, many women who do not disregard the G-point, assert, that intensive orgasms at them are accompanied by an ejaculation. Therefore there are bases to consider, that except a vaginal and clitoral orgasm, there is also a G-point orgasm.

To attention of men: than to help the partner

• do not forget, that the majority of women requires clitoris stimulation. It is a part of a female body which would turn to a penis if women developed as the man - therefore the clitoris for the woman is not less important, than a penis for the man.
• Constantly remember, that love, the romanticist, tenderness and benevolent atmosphere very much raise the woman, and prepare for sex not less, than your passionate caresses and kisses.
• do not hasten.
• caress a breast of the darling - for some women of it enough Is more often to reach an orgasm.
• give to her oral pleasure. The majority of women adores oral sex (cunnilingus), and some even admit, that cannot reach the ending without oral caresses.
• do not hesitate to ask to show the partner what exactly is necessary for her.
• From time to time leave the initiative for the partner and arrange role games.
• If you will lose the control and will appear at finish before the partner, try to find forces on a kiss and caresses which will help her to reach too an orgasm.
• do not get tired to repeat to the darling, how much she is fine, sex and irresistible.

The conclusion

The orgasm - inexpressible sensation, the lawful award which expects everyone in the end of a sex marathon, however sometimes renders this prize unattainable - when you are strained, have got tired or are unhappy with the partner. If your intimate life is saddened by doubts, do not hesitate to address for the help to the expert.Female orgasm: the guidebook for women

Affairs are put aside, time for love has come. You are already ready to next "session", with impatience wait for it, but there is one thin moment: you again are not assured, that will reach an orgasm. It repeats over and over again, and you do not understand, that you do not so, that dements you. But it is not necessary so strongly to worry - free to reach higher peak of love pleasure is necessary to remember some receptions which, undoubtedly, will help to test all scale of feelings which the act of love for everyone should carry.

Step №1: Adjust itself

If you are not ready to being relaxed and make love, about any orgasm cannot be and speeches. Your body, your bedroom, your brain - all should be ready to it because it is one of the main keystones to success. To you it should be convenient, comfortable is one of the main rules for pleasure achievement.

Step № 2: Grow fond of the body

The love to own body during employment by love is important at all less, than desire of a body of your partner. If you are assured of yourselves, are not confused and are not ashamed of yourself - can, it sounds and it is strange, but works, - you by all means will come nearer on one step to a treasured discharge. When you make love to the partner, present, that you do it … with yourselves. So you should concern own body.

Step №3 Be relaxed

Time has come to go to a bedroom. Release the head from all problems and think only that you and your favorite person will fall in embraces each other and begin to spin in love whirlpool. The less you think, the will reach the culmination moment is easier. If to be relaxed completely to you it is hard, there is nothing bad in that before it to drink a glass of wine which will liberate you.

Step №4 Reveal

For certain you heard, that the woman during sex should accept a pose of the dismissed flower. It is the most true way to an orgasm - to reveal and be relaxed, completely opening to the partner without a confusion drop. The only thing that should be in your head during this moment is a pleasure which you test, indulging in love joys, and it is more than anything.

This question sets sooner or later each woman, especially if over and over again she attack the same rake, a name which - a mysterious man's soul. Certainly, its some understanding comes to us with life experience. And than this experience is more sad, especially we bear from it valuable. What to do? Such is a law of nature. However, not only women struggle with this riddle. Many great minds tried to solve essence man's, as, in general, and the female nature ...

From love to hatred...

Zigmund Freud considered, that the world two instincts - sex and aggressive correct. Also there would be in all it no problem, if restrictions not imposed by a society on their exhibitings. From here both ideas of a monogamy and an appeal «love near as itself»... However, all it is impossible instinctive life. But as the person - a being social the society demands of him suppression of instincts. Laws are with that end in view framed and ideals and moral values are formed.

As to sex and aggressive instincts of men to hold them «in frameworks» it is framed and the marriage institute is sustained, and also there is such socially comprehensible mean of realization of aggressive energy, as sports.

One of Freud Jacque Lakan's the famous followers object of desire of the man named, naturally, the woman. But the woman escaping - than more escaping, especially desired (bright demonstration of this phenomenon the film great a Buñuel «That Obscure Object of Desire» is). The Same Lacan argued that love kills desire as as deification of love consider coalescence to that whom love. To take, for example, a figure of the Fine Lady sung by romanticists. There is nothing more terribly for the man, than satisfaction of the desire referred on her. The paradox of attitudes with it is a constant putting off of love attitudes on then. These attitudes last only thanking their delaying...

The power and money

Some psychologists and philosophers, unlike Freud, educed idea of presence in a human nature of one more instinct - aspirations to the power. It is possible to consider as the main apologists of it F.Nitsshe and M.Heidegger. Since the most ancient times the success, force, honouring, riches are considered as power synonyms... Already in a primitive society the leader had the best meal and the most beautiful concubines. Here and today very few people from men will refuse to visit his "skin" and to take a worthy place under the sun.

Work for the modern man where he aspires to realize one of the major requirements - "divide and rule" - the same hunting for a mammoth where he can prove, show the dexterity, play in a command and prove to everything, that something costs, having received as a trophy a worthy large sum.

As become men

«The woman is sex», - the given statement belongs all to the same

founder of a psychoanalysis. That is, it is considered, that the connatural problem of the woman - to open the sex, all its potential possibilities which essence are functions inherent only in women, such as a menses, pregnancy, childbirth, feeding by a breast... At the man is little bit more complex. It sex should be generated. Actually, to become the man, it needs to pass certain tests in which process he is completely identified with the mission. Throughout all history of mankind it is possible to find set of examples of how it descended. As a rule, in any society there are own rituals and institutes initiations, that is methods «dedication in courage». And if in primitive tribes participation of boys in hunting on the same level with adult men today to the world of men it is possible to consider as the form of familiarizing of young men service in army was such ritual, for example...

However, riddles of man's psychology still remain riddles for women how they tried to comprehend them by reading of the scientific literature and on own experience. And can be, it is not necessary to spend so many forces for learning "incognizable"? After all us pulls to each other just because we so different. And there, where one of us has "camber", another should have "concavity" - not only at body level, but also at soul level. At least by a principle of mutual conformity and addition of parts at formation of the whole...