This question sets sooner or later each woman, especially if over and over again she attack the same rake, a name which - a mysterious man's soul. Certainly, its some understanding comes to us with life experience. And than this experience is more sad, especially we bear from it valuable. What to do? Such is a law of nature. However, not only women struggle with this riddle. Many great minds tried to solve essence man's, as, in general, and the female nature ...

From love to hatred...

Zigmund Freud considered, that the world two instincts - sex and aggressive correct. Also there would be in all it no problem, if restrictions not imposed by a society on their exhibitings. From here both ideas of a monogamy and an appeal «love near as itself»... However, all it is impossible instinctive life. But as the person - a being social the society demands of him suppression of instincts. Laws are with that end in view framed and ideals and moral values are formed.

As to sex and aggressive instincts of men to hold them «in frameworks» it is framed and the marriage institute is sustained, and also there is such socially comprehensible mean of realization of aggressive energy, as sports.

One of Freud Jacque Lakan's the famous followers object of desire of the man named, naturally, the woman. But the woman escaping - than more escaping, especially desired (bright demonstration of this phenomenon the film great a Buñuel «That Obscure Object of Desire» is). The Same Lacan argued that love kills desire as as deification of love consider coalescence to that whom love. To take, for example, a figure of the Fine Lady sung by romanticists. There is nothing more terribly for the man, than satisfaction of the desire referred on her. The paradox of attitudes with it is a constant putting off of love attitudes on then. These attitudes last only thanking their delaying...

The power and money

Some psychologists and philosophers, unlike Freud, educed idea of presence in a human nature of one more instinct - aspirations to the power. It is possible to consider as the main apologists of it F.Nitsshe and M.Heidegger. Since the most ancient times the success, force, honouring, riches are considered as power synonyms... Already in a primitive society the leader had the best meal and the most beautiful concubines. Here and today very few people from men will refuse to visit his "skin" and to take a worthy place under the sun.

Work for the modern man where he aspires to realize one of the major requirements - "divide and rule" - the same hunting for a mammoth where he can prove, show the dexterity, play in a command and prove to everything, that something costs, having received as a trophy a worthy large sum.

As become men

«The woman is sex», - the given statement belongs all to the same

founder of a psychoanalysis. That is, it is considered, that the connatural problem of the woman - to open the sex, all its potential possibilities which essence are functions inherent only in women, such as a menses, pregnancy, childbirth, feeding by a breast... At the man is little bit more complex. It sex should be generated. Actually, to become the man, it needs to pass certain tests in which process he is completely identified with the mission. Throughout all history of mankind it is possible to find set of examples of how it descended. As a rule, in any society there are own rituals and institutes initiations, that is methods «dedication in courage». And if in primitive tribes participation of boys in hunting on the same level with adult men today to the world of men it is possible to consider as the form of familiarizing of young men service in army was such ritual, for example...

However, riddles of man's psychology still remain riddles for women how they tried to comprehend them by reading of the scientific literature and on own experience. And can be, it is not necessary to spend so many forces for learning "incognizable"? After all us pulls to each other just because we so different. And there, where one of us has "camber", another should have "concavity" - not only at body level, but also at soul level. At least by a principle of mutual conformity and addition of parts at formation of the whole...