Loss of libido is a common problem. However, not everyone tries to solve it. Not taken seriously, reduced interest in making love can definitely poison your life… What does loss of libido mean? Is it lack of interest in sexual relations, or the inability to reach orgasm? Reduced sex drive can result from physical conditions and pathological issues. Such factors as sex constitution of a patient, his or her age, psychoemotional condition and hormonal status are important when making a diagnosis. Low libido is, in the first place, loss of interest in sexual relations. At the same time some physiological responses can remain, e.g. morning or even spontaneous erection, individual at any separate case. When a person has sexual arousal, and can even reach an orgasm, feeling at the same time no sexual interest, can we call it loss of libido? No, this is another case of sexual desire. Sometimes it can be one sign of pornophilia – addiction to the pornography. A lot of men, who regularly use Internet, have such problems.

In what cases low libido can be treated as a serious disorder? The possible causes of a pathological form of reduced sexual desire are disorders in organ systems in the human body. Low libido is a symptom, just like a temperature, of an illness that should be healed. The situation is more difficult when there is no pathology. Different people treat their health in different ways. Some people with lung cancer continue smoking; avoid consulting a doctor, choosing to numb the pain with alcohol. At the same time other people visit their dentist every half a year without any signs of toothache. Regular sexual life is an index of good health state and the most pleasant form to keep fit. Nobody has died from lack of sex. But I can list probable consequences of long abstinence: myoma, mastopathy, and adenoid tumor. Some people consider reduced sex desire to be a serious problem, while others take it easy. From my own point of view, the second case means that a person deprives himself of full sexual life.

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Is low libido a frequent complaint among the patients? 50 Percent of patients who seek help from sexologists complain on reduced sex drive. The signs of low libido include anorgasmia (lack of orgasms), vaginismus (fear of sexual intercourse), sexual and psychological disorders. How one can treat the problem? It depends on a person, each case is individual. Pathogenetic treatment deals with causes. A comprehensive approach includes the analysis of life style, psychohygiene, relations. Roles of partners, as well as their erogenous zones are thoroughly studied; a system of “sex launching” is developed; a course of special physical exercises and physiotherapy is prescribed. Pharmacotherapy and psychotherapeutic methods are wide-spread. Such approach shows success rates at 80–90%. According to the common opinion, disorders with sex drive are mostly female problems. What do you think, who is more subject to it – men or women? Considering that a male hormone testosterone is responsible for sexual health and sex drive, libido level in men should be higher than in women. But from my point of view, reduced libido levels in comparison with a norm in men and women are approximately equal. However, in the last 15 years the representatives of the stronger sex have started to lose their positions, especially in large cities. Which “norm” is that than?

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The conventional physiological rhythm implies the wish and the ability to have sexual intercourse 2 or 3 times a week in favorable conditions. However, the fluctuations are possible. Sexual desire is influenced by a wide range of factors, e.g. illnesses; sleep disorders; chronic mental exhaustion; novelty of relations. Are there any connections between loss of libido and way of life? The principle is: worse is less and vice versa; but, of course, the norms of your age and constitution should not be exceeded. What are main causes of the problem for both men and women? Regular sexual routine contributes to a lack of sexual desire in men, when his partner turns into “mother” or “friend” instead of being a lover. Quite often my female patients are sure that their husbands have disorders and cannot perform their masculine duties. Therefore they are trying to solve the problem with the medical help; while the true cause is Internet and masturbation.

The most common causes of sexual dysfunction in women include mental and physical exhaustion, especially after giving birth. Lack of sleep is also directly linked to decreased libido. Sex drive is harmed by mechanical, coarse and primitive sexual relations. Unfortunately, jokes about “ceiling contemplation” during sexual intercourse have an obvious basis. How long do women suffer from low sexual desire after having a baby? The rehabilitation period can last up to three years. But improvements are visible after 6 months. If after that period of time a woman still suffers from low libido I advise her to consult a sexologist, as this can lead to desactualisation of sex behavior (decreased meaning of sex in a person’s life) and partial loss of sexual skills. In such situations men withdraw in a shell, and sometimes (especially at age between 40 and 50) this process is irreparable. Some men find mistresses, complaining that their wives show neither attention nor love. The situation is especially tragic when men suggest living separately in the moment when his child needs both parents. Is it possible that both spouses feel tired from each other?

When people are not interested in each other, their sexual desire certainly disappears. It is really important to understand that one should care about his or her relationship with the spouse not only before the wedding but for life. If both partners understand that simple rule, they can save their marriage and enrich relationship. I have elaborated a special program, which is called “the second honeymoon”. According to my observations, a lot can be improved in time. I would even say, quite often couples confess, that their second honeymoon was better than the first one.

 

 

The notion female ejaculation (or squirting) refers to the expulsion of colourless fluid by women before an orgasm or during it. For a long time, this physiological phenomenon, in particular its source and nature, has been a hotly debated question; and till now there is no common scientific opinion on this issue.

The first controversial point is a fact of existence of a female ejaculation. According to some opinions, the expulsion of fluid is nothing more than an incontinence of urine during an orgasm. However, the analysis of the ejaculatory fluid disproved the theory. The consistence of the fluid is denser than that of urine; it has no odor, no taste and usually no color, although it can be whitish. The second point of view is that female ejaculation is nothing but some vaginal lubrication. This theory has also been disputed by researches of the female ejaculation, as the mucous membrane of the vagina starts lubricating right after women’s sexual arousal, instead of in the end of a sexual intercourse.

Another subject of disputes in modern sexology is the source of this specific ejaculatory fluid. One group argues that the secretion of the fluid is caused by paraurethral glands and their ducts which surround a female urethra. This gland formation is known as the female prostate. Another group suggests that the fluid is produced by a so-called G-Spot which was first described by a German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg and which is situated on the anterior wall of the vagina. They claim that G-Spot stimulation can lead to powerful orgasms accompanied by a female ejaculation.

Despite considerable differences in opinions, the most of women understand at last what happens with their bodies at high levels of sexual pleasure. It may especially be helpful for those who suffer from anorgasmia caused by a psychological trauma, and beliefs of the woman about sex problems she may have. Such sex phenomenon as a female ejaculation was often mistaken for an urinary incontinence. <!-- adman -->It provoked an inferiority complex – many women experienced shame and had to restrain themselves and not to receive an orgasm, in order not to produce the fluid, so the sex partner did not have any suspicions and undesirable reactions.

Thanks to the recognition of a female ejaculation many couples are able to acquire the missing sexual harmony, and women feel “full-fledged”. Scientists do not insist on compulsion of this physiological phenomenon at all representatives of the weaker sex, speaking about the probability of its occurrence at 95% of women.

In order to achieve a female ejaculation the following points should be considered as essential for success: high level of sexual arousal, correct stimulation and trained vaginal muscles. Strong vaginal muscles enhance the ability to receive the maximum discharge with or without a female ejaculation. Special Kegel exercises, special training equipment and the technique of discontinuing of urination are considered to be helpful in strengthening the vaginal muscles. It is possible to use all these methods together for faster and effective results.

The given information cannot be regarded as an appeal to urging towards achieving the female ejaculation. Even though this phenomenon can enrich the sex experience of both partners, it should be more like an accompaniment to a great orgasm than an end in itself. The presence or the absence of a female ejaculation is normal and is not a sign of any sexual pathology.

The recognition of a female ejaculation helps a great number of women to avoid various sex complexes and gives an opportunity to feel the freedom of spontaneous sex self-expression.

To reach an orgasm at all so it is simple - if you the woman! Almost all men without effort reach an orgasm with any partner, however women are arranged differently. However, the most regrettable at all it, and that to the overwhelming majority of men and women this fact remains to unknown persons.

Let's look to the truth in eyes - all books, films and in particular magazines for girls and women draw rather tempting picture, representing women constantly raised sexly attractive beings always ready to sex and without effort reaching orgasm. A problem that this representation at all does not correspond to the validity.

Therefore for the women mismatching this image, - that is for the majority - such divergence between the representation imposed to mass-media about the modern woman and a reality can appear rather painful.

The large quantity of young women worries because of own disability to reach an orgasm. However the matter is that, unlike men, the majority of women needs for it to study.

Results of our research testify that the majority of women manages to reach an orgasm only in some years after the beginning of a sex life.

If to you 20 - 30

Even in twenty and thirty years many women cannot catch an illusive dark blue bird of an orgasm. Today the majority of sexologists believe, that disability to reach an orgasm (or problems with orgasm achievement) should push the woman to «independent exercises».

Well, this obvious decision, however many women even remain today diffident enough openly to recognise, that are engaged in a masturbation, and consider itself guilty of something very shameful. Know: the masturbation helps to learn precisely, what pressure and a rhythm is necessary to you to reach an orgasm. In particular, you need to investigate own body precisely to learn, how to stimulate a clitoris.

Yes, the masturbation helps you to learn more about an orgasm, however it is important to remember what to indulge in love with itself the most important thing, in loneliness follows in the comfortable and relaxed situation, and. Education of love to own body and research of the female essence should cause only positive and pleasant sensations, and it is impossible, if someone is torn in your bedroom or a bathroom, demanding immediately to leave and be engaged in supper preparation!

Having learnt without effort to reach an orgasm, you can tell and show to the partner, what exactly is necessary for you to come to finish.

If to you for 30

By then, when to you for 30, 40 or 50 you should learn without effort to reach an orgasm - certainly, near to the loving and careful partner.

However it is not necessary to forget, that at the majority of women ability to reach an orgasm strongly depends on a menstrual cycle. For the woman normally to feel special sex excitation in the middle of a menstrual cycle. However, some women worry excitation peak directly ahead of the menses beginning. Others notice, that are absolutely not inclined to sex during some periods of a cycle. And all it is absolutely normal.

However, if to you for 30, and you can count orgasms on fingers of one arm, that time to address for the help to the expert - to the doctor-sexologist.

Orgasm types

Thanks to Freud, the father-founder of a psychoanalysis, among men there is a delusion as if vaginal orgasms are characteristic for mature women while clitoral orgasms are more extended among young women.

Now this opinion is denied. Many sexologists confirm today - and usual women with them are solidary - that the difference between a vaginal and clitoral orgasm is unknown to them.

As a rule, women cannot reach an orgasm without clitoris stimulation, whether it be in the course of the sex act or a masturbation.

On the other hand, some women are assured, that can "terminate" without any additional stimulation of a clitoris, and assert, that an orgasm source - a vagina. However many sexologists consider, that in the course of sex in any case there is a stimulation of a clitoris which is delayed from top to bottom or is triturated by a man's body.

Yes, also do not forget about a G-point. Some women worry especially bright orgasm at stimulation of this point (which you can find without assistance on a forward wall of a vagina). Really, many women who do not disregard the G-point, assert, that intensive orgasms at them are accompanied by an ejaculation. Therefore there are bases to consider, that except a vaginal and clitoral orgasm, there is also a G-point orgasm.

To attention of men: than to help the partner

• do not forget, that the majority of women requires clitoris stimulation. It is a part of a female body which would turn to a penis if women developed as the man - therefore the clitoris for the woman is not less important, than a penis for the man.
• Constantly remember, that love, the romanticist, tenderness and benevolent atmosphere very much raise the woman, and prepare for sex not less, than your passionate caresses and kisses.
• do not hasten.
• caress a breast of the darling - for some women of it enough Is more often to reach an orgasm.
• give to her oral pleasure. The majority of women adores oral sex (cunnilingus), and some even admit, that cannot reach the ending without oral caresses.
• do not hesitate to ask to show the partner what exactly is necessary for her.
• From time to time leave the initiative for the partner and arrange role games.
• If you will lose the control and will appear at finish before the partner, try to find forces on a kiss and caresses which will help her to reach too an orgasm.
• do not get tired to repeat to the darling, how much she is fine, sex and irresistible.

The conclusion

The orgasm - inexpressible sensation, the lawful award which expects everyone in the end of a sex marathon, however sometimes renders this prize unattainable - when you are strained, have got tired or are unhappy with the partner. If your intimate life is saddened by doubts, do not hesitate to address for the help to the expert.Female orgasm: the guidebook for women

Affairs are put aside, time for love has come. You are already ready to next "session", with impatience wait for it, but there is one thin moment: you again are not assured, that will reach an orgasm. It repeats over and over again, and you do not understand, that you do not so, that dements you. But it is not necessary so strongly to worry - free to reach higher peak of love pleasure is necessary to remember some receptions which, undoubtedly, will help to test all scale of feelings which the act of love for everyone should carry.

Step №1: Adjust itself

If you are not ready to being relaxed and make love, about any orgasm cannot be and speeches. Your body, your bedroom, your brain - all should be ready to it because it is one of the main keystones to success. To you it should be convenient, comfortable is one of the main rules for pleasure achievement.

Step № 2: Grow fond of the body

The love to own body during employment by love is important at all less, than desire of a body of your partner. If you are assured of yourselves, are not confused and are not ashamed of yourself - can, it sounds and it is strange, but works, - you by all means will come nearer on one step to a treasured discharge. When you make love to the partner, present, that you do it … with yourselves. So you should concern own body.

Step №3 Be relaxed

Time has come to go to a bedroom. Release the head from all problems and think only that you and your favorite person will fall in embraces each other and begin to spin in love whirlpool. The less you think, the will reach the culmination moment is easier. If to be relaxed completely to you it is hard, there is nothing bad in that before it to drink a glass of wine which will liberate you.

Step №4 Reveal

For certain you heard, that the woman during sex should accept a pose of the dismissed flower. It is the most true way to an orgasm - to reveal and be relaxed, completely opening to the partner without a confusion drop. The only thing that should be in your head during this moment is a pleasure which you test, indulging in love joys, and it is more than anything.

Only do not say that with you it don't happen.... There is a statistics whom sexologists reluctantly share: 10 % of all orgasms - artificial, or imitated. But women to you will tell, that actually this number where is more impressive. What for it is necessary? Than it is fraught? Whether notice men, what them deceive? Whether the "artificial" orgasm harms to the simulator?

On these and some other questions we will try to find answers. And suddenly our express research to someone will help to draw necessary conclusions?

Why and for what women feign an orgasm?

That it has fast ended. The most widespread cause. The imitated orgasm is used to urge forward the man, to stimulate him visually and to give the "incontestable" proof of that with the part of work the man has consulted, it is time to receive and the part of pleasure. Probably, the woman did not want affinity, probably, she has agreed on it under the pressure of any circumstances. Probably, at her the child is sick and she listens to his cough which is distributed from the next room. Probably, she had a difficult day, serious night, unsuccessful week, bad change, protection has broken or the life truth - not very well was discovered. The main thing that after duties in the world external - on work, in a society, still somewhere - she has come to the small world and has faced, besides, duties! The conjugal duty at the majority of our fragile ladies consists in combination of mass of duties on kitchen, in a nursery, in a bedroom. The woman is simply obliged to be the head cook, good mother and the passionate mistress! Otherwise: excuse, the darling... After all so it is possible suddenly to cease to correspond and... Also what "and"? You wish to live all life «here so»? In a circle of the duties, which nominally pleasant but from which to refuse you have no right? Forcing - not rape, but something very similar.

I do not wish to offend. He was such the darling so tried - flowers, a supper, candles, the most romantic words, refined caresses. But after all he is not guilty, that I do not have mood! Or not, not so: I should award him for all diligence! Easier speaking, it is dishonest. Though, according to some women, all is quite fair: he played interest, she played passion. Everyone has received that wanted

She simply frigid silly woman! Once the woman somewhere has heard it. Perhaps in a film, can, from one of the lovers, can, she has reached before by long reflexions. The low sex culture of the majority of the population of region where in due time there was no sex, assumes, that rather sex woman should want sex day and night, all time, without rests and stoppings. Her eyes shine, the mouth is is invocatory slightly opened, a hair a silk mane goes down on shoulders, dactyls nervously something fingers... In general, such individual in the market of female meat is appreciated above, than any another. A question in, whether you wish to rise in well-disposed ranks of the clones, aspiring yourself to sell more expensively and using for this purpose everything though actor's game, or nevertheless collect to live life by itself and in an own body. And nobody says, that will be easy.

Whether notice men, what them deceive?

Well, not all and not always. The matter is that each orgasm and each person - is unique. It means, that your today's, two hundred thirty fifth under the account, the orgasm differs from all previous. And its physiological exhibitings too. Many men search in female explosions of passion for that uncontrollable vagina spasms, fluid streams, red maculae (yes, and such happens) on a breast. These signs they consider true, all the rest for them - lie, lie and once again lie. Probably, after read the burial service the simulator the similar man - the second extreme measure. True, as usual, somewhere in the middle.

Whether similar imitation harms to the woman?

Unfortunately, yes. And physiologically - the sex discharge, and psychologic - a habit to be lazy is necessary for the woman all the same, even in bed and to mask the senses, to depress desires in what good cannot result. At the started forms - perennial simulations - the partner or guesses, or subconsciously feels a discord. And it is bad and is fraught.

So, can, nevertheless to be fair? Always, even if the truth is unpleasant also abandoning can deliver someone inconveniences?

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