Loss of libido is a common problem. However, not everyone tries to solve it. Not taken seriously, reduced interest in making love can definitely poison your life… What does loss of libido mean? Is it lack of interest in sexual relations, or the inability to reach orgasm? Reduced sex drive can result from physical conditions and pathological issues. Such factors as sex constitution of a patient, his or her age, psychoemotional condition and hormonal status are important when making a diagnosis. Low libido is, in the first place, loss of interest in sexual relations. At the same time some physiological responses can remain, e.g. morning or even spontaneous erection, individual at any separate case. When a person has sexual arousal, and can even reach an orgasm, feeling at the same time no sexual interest, can we call it loss of libido? No, this is another case of sexual desire. Sometimes it can be one sign of pornophilia – addiction to the pornography. A lot of men, who regularly use Internet, have such problems.

In what cases low libido can be treated as a serious disorder? The possible causes of a pathological form of reduced sexual desire are disorders in organ systems in the human body. Low libido is a symptom, just like a temperature, of an illness that should be healed. The situation is more difficult when there is no pathology. Different people treat their health in different ways. Some people with lung cancer continue smoking; avoid consulting a doctor, choosing to numb the pain with alcohol. At the same time other people visit their dentist every half a year without any signs of toothache. Regular sexual life is an index of good health state and the most pleasant form to keep fit. Nobody has died from lack of sex. But I can list probable consequences of long abstinence: myoma, mastopathy, and adenoid tumor. Some people consider reduced sex desire to be a serious problem, while others take it easy. From my own point of view, the second case means that a person deprives himself of full sexual life.

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Is low libido a frequent complaint among the patients? 50 Percent of patients who seek help from sexologists complain on reduced sex drive. The signs of low libido include anorgasmia (lack of orgasms), vaginismus (fear of sexual intercourse), sexual and psychological disorders. How one can treat the problem? It depends on a person, each case is individual. Pathogenetic treatment deals with causes. A comprehensive approach includes the analysis of life style, psychohygiene, relations. Roles of partners, as well as their erogenous zones are thoroughly studied; a system of “sex launching” is developed; a course of special physical exercises and physiotherapy is prescribed. Pharmacotherapy and psychotherapeutic methods are wide-spread. Such approach shows success rates at 80–90%. According to the common opinion, disorders with sex drive are mostly female problems. What do you think, who is more subject to it – men or women? Considering that a male hormone testosterone is responsible for sexual health and sex drive, libido level in men should be higher than in women. But from my point of view, reduced libido levels in comparison with a norm in men and women are approximately equal. However, in the last 15 years the representatives of the stronger sex have started to lose their positions, especially in large cities. Which “norm” is that than?

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The conventional physiological rhythm implies the wish and the ability to have sexual intercourse 2 or 3 times a week in favorable conditions. However, the fluctuations are possible. Sexual desire is influenced by a wide range of factors, e.g. illnesses; sleep disorders; chronic mental exhaustion; novelty of relations. Are there any connections between loss of libido and way of life? The principle is: worse is less and vice versa; but, of course, the norms of your age and constitution should not be exceeded. What are main causes of the problem for both men and women? Regular sexual routine contributes to a lack of sexual desire in men, when his partner turns into “mother” or “friend” instead of being a lover. Quite often my female patients are sure that their husbands have disorders and cannot perform their masculine duties. Therefore they are trying to solve the problem with the medical help; while the true cause is Internet and masturbation.

The most common causes of sexual dysfunction in women include mental and physical exhaustion, especially after giving birth. Lack of sleep is also directly linked to decreased libido. Sex drive is harmed by mechanical, coarse and primitive sexual relations. Unfortunately, jokes about “ceiling contemplation” during sexual intercourse have an obvious basis. How long do women suffer from low sexual desire after having a baby? The rehabilitation period can last up to three years. But improvements are visible after 6 months. If after that period of time a woman still suffers from low libido I advise her to consult a sexologist, as this can lead to desactualisation of sex behavior (decreased meaning of sex in a person’s life) and partial loss of sexual skills. In such situations men withdraw in a shell, and sometimes (especially at age between 40 and 50) this process is irreparable. Some men find mistresses, complaining that their wives show neither attention nor love. The situation is especially tragic when men suggest living separately in the moment when his child needs both parents. Is it possible that both spouses feel tired from each other?

When people are not interested in each other, their sexual desire certainly disappears. It is really important to understand that one should care about his or her relationship with the spouse not only before the wedding but for life. If both partners understand that simple rule, they can save their marriage and enrich relationship. I have elaborated a special program, which is called “the second honeymoon”. According to my observations, a lot can be improved in time. I would even say, quite often couples confess, that their second honeymoon was better than the first one.

 

 

The notion female ejaculation (or squirting) refers to the expulsion of colourless fluid by women before an orgasm or during it. For a long time, this physiological phenomenon, in particular its source and nature, has been a hotly debated question; and till now there is no common scientific opinion on this issue.

The first controversial point is a fact of existence of a female ejaculation. According to some opinions, the expulsion of fluid is nothing more than an incontinence of urine during an orgasm. However, the analysis of the ejaculatory fluid disproved the theory. The consistence of the fluid is denser than that of urine; it has no odor, no taste and usually no color, although it can be whitish. The second point of view is that female ejaculation is nothing but some vaginal lubrication. This theory has also been disputed by researches of the female ejaculation, as the mucous membrane of the vagina starts lubricating right after women’s sexual arousal, instead of in the end of a sexual intercourse.

Another subject of disputes in modern sexology is the source of this specific ejaculatory fluid. One group argues that the secretion of the fluid is caused by paraurethral glands and their ducts which surround a female urethra. This gland formation is known as the female prostate. Another group suggests that the fluid is produced by a so-called G-Spot which was first described by a German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg and which is situated on the anterior wall of the vagina. They claim that G-Spot stimulation can lead to powerful orgasms accompanied by a female ejaculation.

Despite considerable differences in opinions, the most of women understand at last what happens with their bodies at high levels of sexual pleasure. It may especially be helpful for those who suffer from anorgasmia caused by a psychological trauma, and beliefs of the woman about sex problems she may have. Such sex phenomenon as a female ejaculation was often mistaken for an urinary incontinence. <!-- adman -->It provoked an inferiority complex – many women experienced shame and had to restrain themselves and not to receive an orgasm, in order not to produce the fluid, so the sex partner did not have any suspicions and undesirable reactions.

Thanks to the recognition of a female ejaculation many couples are able to acquire the missing sexual harmony, and women feel “full-fledged”. Scientists do not insist on compulsion of this physiological phenomenon at all representatives of the weaker sex, speaking about the probability of its occurrence at 95% of women.

In order to achieve a female ejaculation the following points should be considered as essential for success: high level of sexual arousal, correct stimulation and trained vaginal muscles. Strong vaginal muscles enhance the ability to receive the maximum discharge with or without a female ejaculation. Special Kegel exercises, special training equipment and the technique of discontinuing of urination are considered to be helpful in strengthening the vaginal muscles. It is possible to use all these methods together for faster and effective results.

The given information cannot be regarded as an appeal to urging towards achieving the female ejaculation. Even though this phenomenon can enrich the sex experience of both partners, it should be more like an accompaniment to a great orgasm than an end in itself. The presence or the absence of a female ejaculation is normal and is not a sign of any sexual pathology.

The recognition of a female ejaculation helps a great number of women to avoid various sex complexes and gives an opportunity to feel the freedom of spontaneous sex self-expression.

Nowadays, even elderly people lead an active life - they travel and continue doing the things they enjoyed in their youth, including sex. It is generally known that all ages are submissive to love. Intimacy is usually a follow-up of romantic feelings.

Both men and women wish to continue fulfilling relationships at any age. A healthy sex life has a positive influence on all aspects of our life, including our physical health and self-esteem.

Although cinema and television are persistently trying to convince us that only teenagers and young people have sex, mildly speaking it is not true. The need for intimacy does not disappear with the years. It is impossible to “outgrow” a need for love, emotional closeness and intimacy. Most people still have sexual fantasies at the age of 80 and 90.

It is true that the sex at 80 is not the same as it was at 20, but it does not really mean that sex life of the elderly can no longer be satisfying and enjoyable. It will be easier for you to prepare yourself for possible problems in sex life if you understand age-related changes that happen in your body and in the body of your partner.

Natural age-related changes

As you know, your body grows older and simply "wears out"; and these natural age-related changes can affect your sexual relations. Although physical changes are usually the most discussed issue, you should not forget about the psychological changes your body undergoes.

Physical changes

Testosterone regulates both men's and women's sex drive (libido). Aging men and women produce enough testosterone to maintain their interest in sex. Even though some aspects of sex will cause more difficulties as you age, these changes offer an incentive to try new positions and techniques.

Age-related physical changes in women's organisms are generally connected with menopause and decreased levels of estrogen. Most women have less vaginal lubrication as they get older and it takes longer for the vagina to lubricate during sexual arousal. Your vagina becomes less elastic. All these changes may make your sexual intercourse less comfortable or even painful. In addition to that, women can feel burning pain and during penetration or discover vaginal bleeding after a sexual intercourse.

In order to stimulate your natural vaginal lubrication, it is helpful to make foreplay a focus. Another solution to this problem is the usage of water-based sexual lubricants, such as K-Y jelly, conjugated estrogen creams or estrogen replacement therapy. Regular sex helps to maintain lubrication and elasticity of the vagina. Long-term sexual abstinence can cause the loss of vaginal elasticity, so it may take some time to stretch vagina to accept a penis. Talk to your partner about slower movements in order to minimize your pain.

Psychological changes

Maintaining your ability to have sex at elderly age depends not only on your body, but also on your mind. If you feel embarrassed or ashamed of your sexual needs, anxiety and stress can have a negative impact on your ability to become aroused. Age-related changes in your appearance may also influence your emotional sincerity and the ability to have sexual relations. The more wrinkles and grey hairs you notice, the less self-esteem you have. You do not feel attractive. Negative self-feeling restrain your sexual desire, as you feel unworthy of sexual attention from your partner and do not trust him.

Stresses and worries about sexual performance and possible failures can provoke male impotence (Erectile dysfunction) and female frigidity (sexual arousal disorder). Slow down and you will be able to avoid emotional pressure.

Discuss this topic with your partner and tell him about your worries and anxiety. His or her support will help you to boost your confidence up.

How to improve your sex life, as you age

Many elderly people consider their current sex life to be richer than in their youth. They are sure that sex gets better with age, as good wine. Improving your sex life requires talking with your partner about sex problems and fantasies, and making changes in your sex program.

Expand your conception of sex

Sex is not just a series of physical exercises for your satisfaction. Sex is more than a vaginal penetration. When getting older, many people begin appreciating intimate talks before and after sex, which make a sexual intercourse more interesting. Sexual petting can be a good alternative to the intercourse, and caressing, even simple cuddling, can lead to an orgasm (recollect the movie "Last Tango in Paris"). Think about erotic massage, masturbation or oral sex.

Communicate with your partner more often.

Nothing can bring you closer to your partner as communication. Discuss the changes you are going through to understand how to do away with discomfort and make your sex life better. A different position or some other sexual activity, such as massage or cuddling might become a solution. Question your partner about his or her needs and fantasies, and think over how you can satisfy them. The discussion of sex issues itself is arousing and can become a wonderful foreplay.

Make changes to your sex routine

Simple changes can improve your sex life. Fix a different time for sex; choose a time when you feel more energetic. Try making love in the morning, when you feel refreshed after a night sleep and do not postpone sex to the end of a long day, when you are tired and exhausted. As it may take longer for you to become aroused, take more time to set a romantic stage, e.g. a romantic dinner, an evening party for two or dancing. Try new sexual positions; do not stick to a missionary position. Find a position, which is comfortable for you and your partner.

Manage your expectations

If you did not have a frequent sex in your early days, you should not expect to become a "sex-machine" in your middle life. Maybe you were used to expressing your intimacy in other ways, such as an absorbing conversation. If that is the case, the situation will be the same when you become older. Couples who enjoyed frequent sex when they were younger are more likely to continue that as they age.

Your health is in your hands

A healthy diet and regular sport exercises help you stay in good shape. As a result, you will be fit and prepared for sex at any age. Try keeping a balanced diet, rich in fruit and vegetables. Exercise regularly, at least 30 minutes a day, on every day of the week. Drink less alcohol, as it decreases sexual potency at both men and women. Illegal drugs, such as marijuana and cocaine, have a negative impact on sexual functions, too.

If you do not have a sexual partner, it does not really mean you should give up sex for lost. More then a half of people over 65 are single in the US. Even at this age you can fins a new love or experience a new romance that will lead to intimacy. Women live longer than men. That is why there are more single women in the world, and it is quite difficult to find a partner for them at a mature age. Try visiting such places where it is possible to meet people of your age, such as special geriatric centers and stores. It is never late to start a new relationship.

Do not forget about safe sex when you have a new sex partner. Many elderly couples ignore this rule as they are sure they are not at risk of venereal diseases, including AIDS. Contrary to a popular belief, AIDS is not a disease of young people. In the United States of America more than 10 percent of AIDS-infected are people over 50. Every sexually active person, regardless of their age, can contract a venereal disease. Do not change your sex partner or practice safe sex by using condoms. Discuss the opportunities of being tested for HIV with your sexual partner. Elderly people take a HIV tests quite seldom

Consult your doctor

Elderly people feel embarrassed to discuss sex issues with their doctors. However, such conversations can help you to understand age-related changes of your body and mind, and their influence on your sexual activity.

To reach an orgasm at all so it is simple - if you the woman! Almost all men without effort reach an orgasm with any partner, however women are arranged differently. However, the most regrettable at all it, and that to the overwhelming majority of men and women this fact remains to unknown persons.

Let's look to the truth in eyes - all books, films and in particular magazines for girls and women draw rather tempting picture, representing women constantly raised sexly attractive beings always ready to sex and without effort reaching orgasm. A problem that this representation at all does not correspond to the validity.

Therefore for the women mismatching this image, - that is for the majority - such divergence between the representation imposed to mass-media about the modern woman and a reality can appear rather painful.

The large quantity of young women worries because of own disability to reach an orgasm. However the matter is that, unlike men, the majority of women needs for it to study.

Results of our research testify that the majority of women manages to reach an orgasm only in some years after the beginning of a sex life.

If to you 20 - 30

Even in twenty and thirty years many women cannot catch an illusive dark blue bird of an orgasm. Today the majority of sexologists believe, that disability to reach an orgasm (or problems with orgasm achievement) should push the woman to «independent exercises».

Well, this obvious decision, however many women even remain today diffident enough openly to recognise, that are engaged in a masturbation, and consider itself guilty of something very shameful. Know: the masturbation helps to learn precisely, what pressure and a rhythm is necessary to you to reach an orgasm. In particular, you need to investigate own body precisely to learn, how to stimulate a clitoris.

Yes, the masturbation helps you to learn more about an orgasm, however it is important to remember what to indulge in love with itself the most important thing, in loneliness follows in the comfortable and relaxed situation, and. Education of love to own body and research of the female essence should cause only positive and pleasant sensations, and it is impossible, if someone is torn in your bedroom or a bathroom, demanding immediately to leave and be engaged in supper preparation!

Having learnt without effort to reach an orgasm, you can tell and show to the partner, what exactly is necessary for you to come to finish.

If to you for 30

By then, when to you for 30, 40 or 50 you should learn without effort to reach an orgasm - certainly, near to the loving and careful partner.

However it is not necessary to forget, that at the majority of women ability to reach an orgasm strongly depends on a menstrual cycle. For the woman normally to feel special sex excitation in the middle of a menstrual cycle. However, some women worry excitation peak directly ahead of the menses beginning. Others notice, that are absolutely not inclined to sex during some periods of a cycle. And all it is absolutely normal.

However, if to you for 30, and you can count orgasms on fingers of one arm, that time to address for the help to the expert - to the doctor-sexologist.

Orgasm types

Thanks to Freud, the father-founder of a psychoanalysis, among men there is a delusion as if vaginal orgasms are characteristic for mature women while clitoral orgasms are more extended among young women.

Now this opinion is denied. Many sexologists confirm today - and usual women with them are solidary - that the difference between a vaginal and clitoral orgasm is unknown to them.

As a rule, women cannot reach an orgasm without clitoris stimulation, whether it be in the course of the sex act or a masturbation.

On the other hand, some women are assured, that can "terminate" without any additional stimulation of a clitoris, and assert, that an orgasm source - a vagina. However many sexologists consider, that in the course of sex in any case there is a stimulation of a clitoris which is delayed from top to bottom or is triturated by a man's body.

Yes, also do not forget about a G-point. Some women worry especially bright orgasm at stimulation of this point (which you can find without assistance on a forward wall of a vagina). Really, many women who do not disregard the G-point, assert, that intensive orgasms at them are accompanied by an ejaculation. Therefore there are bases to consider, that except a vaginal and clitoral orgasm, there is also a G-point orgasm.

To attention of men: than to help the partner

• do not forget, that the majority of women requires clitoris stimulation. It is a part of a female body which would turn to a penis if women developed as the man - therefore the clitoris for the woman is not less important, than a penis for the man.
• Constantly remember, that love, the romanticist, tenderness and benevolent atmosphere very much raise the woman, and prepare for sex not less, than your passionate caresses and kisses.
• do not hasten.
• caress a breast of the darling - for some women of it enough Is more often to reach an orgasm.
• give to her oral pleasure. The majority of women adores oral sex (cunnilingus), and some even admit, that cannot reach the ending without oral caresses.
• do not hesitate to ask to show the partner what exactly is necessary for her.
• From time to time leave the initiative for the partner and arrange role games.
• If you will lose the control and will appear at finish before the partner, try to find forces on a kiss and caresses which will help her to reach too an orgasm.
• do not get tired to repeat to the darling, how much she is fine, sex and irresistible.

The conclusion

The orgasm - inexpressible sensation, the lawful award which expects everyone in the end of a sex marathon, however sometimes renders this prize unattainable - when you are strained, have got tired or are unhappy with the partner. If your intimate life is saddened by doubts, do not hesitate to address for the help to the expert.Female orgasm: the guidebook for women

Many mummies after childbirth experience difficulties with returning by a sexual life. These difficulties can be caused physiological processes, psychological unavailability of mother to renewal of sexual relations or is simple fears which can be overcome easily in dialogue with attitudes the person.

First of all, it is necessary to understand, that childbirth at each woman passes differently and leaves a certain print in her consciousness. After childbirth the body of the woman changes also. In the first 6 weeks after childbirth it is recommended to refrain from intimate relations, but, frequently, it is heavy to woman to return to it even after some months.

What can disturb young mum?

1. Dryness of a vagina. The quantity of natural greasing of a vagina essentially decreases at the expense of decrease in level of an estrogen. Especially test discomfort of the woman at which the menstrual cycle renews enough not soon as its renewal is closely connected with allocation of greasing substance.

2. Absence of desire to have sex. It is necessary for young mum to adapt for the new role, she very much gets tired in the first months. The organism of the woman is not adjusted on fast returning by a sexual life, it should not confuse you. The Prolactin - a motherhood hormone - now allows to concentrate only on the child. The organism "is occupied" by feeding of the kid and consequently frequently the unwillingness to have sex is connected with this "employment" (feeding and acquisition functions by following posterity - that is supported with our sexual desire - cannot be accepted as parallel, after all them different hormones operate).

3. A complex of an imperfect body. After childbirth time is necessary for mum physically to be restored. The woman can worry concerning the appeared tummy, flabbiness of a skin. Do not hurry to register in a sports hall! The organism now demands the careful relation though it at all does not mean, that you need to spend time laying in bed. There is a special complex of exercises which can be carried out already next day after childbirth.

4. Change of the relation from the husband. Quite explainable phenomenon. You can notice, that the loved man became more cautious, consecutive, does not wish once again you to disturb. To him now also it is difficult, as well as to you, to adapt to a new role. Allow loved to participate directly in process of care by the child - let he too comprehends this hard science. If the situation develops antithetically - read point 2 and discuss all arising questions with the husband.

5. Change of sensations from a touch to your breast - they can appear very pleasant, and there can be discomfort sensations. It especially individually.

6. The breast form during the period and after breastfeeding. Connection between change of the form of a breast and process of breastfeeding no more, than decided. The breast form does not depend on, whether you nurse and on what extent of time. The main role is played by elasticity of a skin of a breast. If in this question at you is on what to complain - refusal of feeding a situation will not correct. During the period mammary gland involutions fatty tissue again comes back, and the breast gets other form. It is necessary to remember, that on a breast condition the big influence is rendered by the organization of feeding. If mum feeds on hours, allows breasts to be overflowed, often is decanted, sharply stops to breastfeeding, quickly collects weight or sharply grows thin are the first steps to deterioration of the form of a breast.

7. Milk has escaped! During an orgasm you can arrange small milk "fireworks". Be not frightened, in it the hormone Oxytocin which is produced in considerable quantities during childbirth, in feeding by a breast and … during an orgasm is guilty.

In absence of sex it is very important to save close and confidential relations with your partner. The new little man has entered into your world, but it does not mean, that now you not so are necessary each other. Both the man, and the woman require approval and understanding from the loved man person. Psychological readiness for renewal of an intimate life of both spouses plays the most important role.

That it is necessary to know to breastfeeding mum

Be not surprised, if the sexual life undergoes changes, and you will feel, that sensations became absolutely others. Let's allocate the basic moments to which it is necessary to pay attention:

1. Take care of contraception if at you the cycle has renewed. It is necessary to remember, that the method of a lactational amenorrhea is applicable in a case when the child is on natural feeding (it is put to a breast on demand, does not receive water, to it of less than six months and intervals between feedings do not exceed 4 hours). In feeding of mum prefer following methods of contraception:

• Spermicides;
• The intrauterine device - is recommended after 6 weeks after childbirth and after consultation of the gynecologist
• Condom (if the menstrual cycle has renewed also mum does not test discomfort of absence of greasing of a vagina, otherwise it is possible to use special greasings - a lubricant).

If you had questions concerning a contraception choice - do not make the decision independently. Necessarily address to the gynecologist. For example, reception of the preparations containing an estrogen, can essentially lower milk.

1. If you are protected by a method of a lactational amenorrhea - it is possible to use a lubricant (for prevention of dryness of a vagina).
2. Probably, you should accept a role of the leading partner? It you will relieve the beloved of fear to cause to you a pain and can supervise over process, selecting the most convenient position.
3. Consider, that the kid can wake up any minute as in the first months he spends time most part in a superficial dream. Therefore it is necessary to use any possibility. Not less important, how much mum can relax and distract from essential problems that is a little problematic in the first months.
4. Not always from first days of renewal of a sex life you will start to feel pleasure. On separate interrogations of feeding mothers it was required to them more than a year again to learn to rejoice a sex life. 40 % of women established the fact what in due course to test an orgasm they in 2 times became more often.

Passions on a figure

And here you feel, that are already ready. The only thing that constrains and does not allow to be relaxed - your body. Many women run into depression at the sight of the drooped tummy, extensions and other "delights". And again you are ready to register in a sports hall and even to visit the plastic surgeon. Do not hurry up! With what it is necessary to begin?

The period of restoration after sorts is very important. Few women can brag to fast homing in former forms. Save calmness. Feeding by a breast now your very first assistant. At the expense of manufacture of Oxytocin the uterus will much fast return to a former condition. As you will longly feed, the organism will start to burn fats saved up in pregnancy. The women breastfeeding more of 9 months, grow thin much more effectively.

You can discuss with the instructor in restoration after childbirth special exercises. Practically you can find such expert in any Center of antenatal preparation.

For strengthening of muscles of a breast you can carry out special exercises: press-up from a wall, ball squeezing at breast level.

For strengthening of muscles of a vagina carry out Kegel’s exercise - reduce vagina muscles as it is possible more strongly, detain for 5 seconds and be relaxed. It is possible to do exercise throughout all day several times. It is possible to complicate a little it - present, that you lift the lift on the third floor, being late on 2-3 seconds on each floor. Then also slowly “lower the lift”.

For restoration of elasticity of a skin it is possible to take a contrast shower and to use special softening a cream (do not get unknown persons of a cream if in the instruction possibility of use in a lactation is not stipulated!)

Consult to the gynecologist about carrying of a postnatal bandage. Both antenatal, and the postnatal bandage does not need to be got independently on own discretion. First, bandage carrying should be always supported by certain indications. Secondly, many women who have got a postnatal belt, have declared, that so never it not dressed. Do not try to predict presence of a stomach after childbirth.

If you have started to be engaged in sports (thus necessarily having consulted to the doctor) remember, that physical activity can cause change of taste of milk (at the expense of a lactic acid clump), but after the lapse of an hour after employment smack is erased.

Don’t try to eat as much as possible, spending interrelation between quantity of produced milk and quantity of the eaten nutrition. These are absolutely untied among themselves concepts. The ration of feeding mum should be balanced, but you are not obliged to eat not so for a two, and days of limited intake of food of times in a week (it is possible to include low-calorie nutritionand sour-milk products) will not affect a breastfedding.

Search for pluses of your position! Now you - beautiful, womanly, unusual.

As though the woman did not feel itself after childbirth, nevertheless a birth of the baby - the biggest holiday in a married couple life. Even if the body looks absolutely in another way is after all naturally, you became mother!

For someone restoration process passes quickly, and for someone is stretched on a year. But your true female appeal and charm remain invariable. Moreover - they are increased greatly.

Do not lose a self-confidence, find a place to little female cunnings and your life never will seem boring, cares of the kid burdening, and a female body a subject of own shame.

Affairs are put aside, time for love has come. You are already ready to next "session", with impatience wait for it, but there is one thin moment: you again are not assured, that will reach an orgasm. It repeats over and over again, and you do not understand, that you do not so, that dements you. But it is not necessary so strongly to worry - free to reach higher peak of love pleasure is necessary to remember some receptions which, undoubtedly, will help to test all scale of feelings which the act of love for everyone should carry.

Step №1: Adjust itself

If you are not ready to being relaxed and make love, about any orgasm cannot be and speeches. Your body, your bedroom, your brain - all should be ready to it because it is one of the main keystones to success. To you it should be convenient, comfortable is one of the main rules for pleasure achievement.

Step № 2: Grow fond of the body

The love to own body during employment by love is important at all less, than desire of a body of your partner. If you are assured of yourselves, are not confused and are not ashamed of yourself - can, it sounds and it is strange, but works, - you by all means will come nearer on one step to a treasured discharge. When you make love to the partner, present, that you do it … with yourselves. So you should concern own body.

Step №3 Be relaxed

Time has come to go to a bedroom. Release the head from all problems and think only that you and your favorite person will fall in embraces each other and begin to spin in love whirlpool. The less you think, the will reach the culmination moment is easier. If to be relaxed completely to you it is hard, there is nothing bad in that before it to drink a glass of wine which will liberate you.

Step №4 Reveal

For certain you heard, that the woman during sex should accept a pose of the dismissed flower. It is the most true way to an orgasm - to reveal and be relaxed, completely opening to the partner without a confusion drop. The only thing that should be in your head during this moment is a pleasure which you test, indulging in love joys, and it is more than anything.

Force and duration of man's and female sex experiences partly depend on ability meaningly to supervise the muscular reactions. The important role one of the perineum muscles, located between an anus and an urethra plays thus, a Levator ani - a muscle lifting an anus. If this muscle is weak from a birth or on other causes (at some women it is stretched after childbirth), it reduces intensity of an orgasm. In 1950 gynecologist Arnold Kegel has offered the women experiencing after childbirth of difficulty with the control over an urination, special exercises. There were, that these exercises which have received the name "kegels", not only stop a consensual urination, but also raise a sex tonus. Now them recommend both to women, and men.

• First, kegels raise degree of comprehension of the senses and the experiences localised in generative organs.
• Secondly, they improve their blood supply.
• Thirdly, raise sex reactivity.
• Fourthly, help to recover a muscle tone of a vagina after childbirth.
• Fifthly, enlarge conscious self-checking over an orgasm.

How it is necessary to do them?

To find the Levator ani, it is necessary during urination effort of will to intercept this process (with the placed feet), and then again to renew it. A muscle which intercepts an urine stream - you will feel its strain, - and there is that. Or imagine, that it is urgently necessary for you in a toilet, and still it is necessary to reach it, and notice, you thus exert what muscles. After you will find a muscle, start exercises.

"Slow kegels" - to compress, some time to keep, and then to relax a muscle.

"Fast kegels" - the same in as much as possible fast rate.

Exercise of all pelvic range - to exert so as if you try to involve water in generative organs, and then to push out it back (Thus stomach muscles will become stronger also).

Each of these exercises becomes on 10 times 3 times a day; in a week to enlarge number of exercises to 15, and then - to 20 and 25 times. To hasten it is not necessary, as in the beginning the muscle will get tired and can be ill. As at any gymnastics, breath should be equal. Gradually exercises will become a habit, and it will be possible to do them where and when necessary: laying in bed, standing in a queue, watching TV. From the side it is absolutely imperceptible. According to authoritative experts, exercises yield good result. The primitive view identifying a man's orgasm with an ejaculation, forces men to aspire to lead up each intercourse "up to the end". But man's possibilities in this sense are circumscribed and besides with the years decrease. The conscious ejaculation control to the aid comes.