Many mummies after childbirth experience difficulties with returning by a sexual life. These difficulties can be caused physiological processes, psychological unavailability of mother to renewal of sexual relations or is simple fears which can be overcome easily in dialogue with attitudes the person.
First of all, it is necessary to understand, that childbirth at each woman passes differently and leaves a certain print in her consciousness. After childbirth the body of the woman changes also. In the first 6 weeks after childbirth it is recommended to refrain from intimate relations, but, frequently, it is heavy to woman to return to it even after some months.
What can disturb young mum?
1. Dryness of a vagina. The quantity of natural greasing of a vagina essentially decreases at the expense of decrease in level of an estrogen. Especially test discomfort of the woman at which the menstrual cycle renews enough not soon as its renewal is closely connected with allocation of greasing substance.
2. Absence of desire to have sex. It is necessary for young mum to adapt for the new role, she very much gets tired in the first months. The organism of the woman is not adjusted on fast returning by a sexual life, it should not confuse you. The Prolactin - a motherhood hormone - now allows to concentrate only on the child. The organism "is occupied" by feeding of the kid and consequently frequently the unwillingness to have sex is connected with this "employment" (feeding and acquisition functions by following posterity - that is supported with our sexual desire - cannot be accepted as parallel, after all them different hormones operate).
3. A complex of an imperfect body. After childbirth time is necessary for mum physically to be restored. The woman can worry concerning the appeared tummy, flabbiness of a skin. Do not hurry to register in a sports hall! The organism now demands the careful relation though it at all does not mean, that you need to spend time laying in bed. There is a special complex of exercises which can be carried out already next day after childbirth.
4. Change of the relation from the husband. Quite explainable phenomenon. You can notice, that the loved man became more cautious, consecutive, does not wish once again you to disturb. To him now also it is difficult, as well as to you, to adapt to a new role. Allow loved to participate directly in process of care by the child - let he too comprehends this hard science. If the situation develops antithetically - read point 2 and discuss all arising questions with the husband.
5. Change of sensations from a touch to your breast - they can appear very pleasant, and there can be discomfort sensations. It especially individually.
6. The breast form during the period and after breastfeeding. Connection between change of the form of a breast and process of breastfeeding no more, than decided. The breast form does not depend on, whether you nurse and on what extent of time. The main role is played by elasticity of a skin of a breast. If in this question at you is on what to complain - refusal of feeding a situation will not correct. During the period mammary gland involutions fatty tissue again comes back, and the breast gets other form. It is necessary to remember, that on a breast condition the big influence is rendered by the organization of feeding. If mum feeds on hours, allows breasts to be overflowed, often is decanted, sharply stops to breastfeeding, quickly collects weight or sharply grows thin are the first steps to deterioration of the form of a breast.
7. Milk has escaped! During an orgasm you can arrange small milk "fireworks". Be not frightened, in it the hormone Oxytocin which is produced in considerable quantities during childbirth, in feeding by a breast and … during an orgasm is guilty.
In absence of sex it is very important to save close and confidential relations with your partner. The new little man has entered into your world, but it does not mean, that now you not so are necessary each other. Both the man, and the woman require approval and understanding from the loved man person. Psychological readiness for renewal of an intimate life of both spouses plays the most important role.
That it is necessary to know to breastfeeding mum
Be not surprised, if the sexual life undergoes changes, and you will feel, that sensations became absolutely others. Let's allocate the basic moments to which it is necessary to pay attention:
- Take care of contraception if at you the cycle has renewed. It is necessary to remember, that the method of a lactational amenorrhea is applicable in a case when the child is on natural feeding (it is put to a breast on demand, does not receive water, to it of less than six months and intervals between feedings do not exceed 4 hours). In feeding of mum prefer following methods of contraception:
- Spermicides;
- The intrauterine device - is recommended after 6 weeks after childbirth and after consultation of the gynecologist
- Condom (if the menstrual cycle has renewed also mum does not test discomfort of absence of greasing of a vagina, otherwise it is possible to use special greasings - a lubricant).
If you had questions concerning a contraception choice - do not make the decision independently. Necessarily address to the gynecologist. For example, reception of the preparations containing an estrogen, can essentially lower milk.
- If you are protected by a method of a lactational amenorrhea - it is possible to use a lubricant (for prevention of dryness of a vagina).
- Probably, you should accept a role of the leading partner? It you will relieve the beloved of fear to cause to you a pain and can supervise over process, selecting the most convenient position.
- Consider, that the kid can wake up any minute as in the first months he spends time most part in a superficial dream. Therefore it is necessary to use any possibility. Not less important, how much mum can relax and distract from essential problems that is a little problematic in the first months.
- Not always from first days of renewal of a sex life you will start to feel pleasure. On separate interrogations of feeding mothers it was required to them more than a year again to learn to rejoice a sex life. 40 % of women established the fact what in due course to test an orgasm they in 2 times became more often.
Passions on a figure
And here you feel, that are already ready. The only thing that constrains and does not allow to be relaxed - your body. Many women run into depression at the sight of the drooped tummy, extensions and other "delights". And again you are ready to register in a sports hall and even to visit the plastic surgeon. Do not hurry up! With what it is necessary to begin?
The period of restoration after sorts is very important. Few women can brag to fast homing in former forms. Save calmness. Feeding by a breast now your very first assistant. At the expense of manufacture of Oxytocin the uterus will much fast return to a former condition. As you will longly feed, the organism will start to burn fats saved up in pregnancy. The women breastfeeding more of 9 months, grow thin much more effectively.
You can discuss with the instructor in restoration after childbirth special exercises. Practically you can find such expert in any Center of antenatal preparation.
For strengthening of muscles of a breast you can carry out special exercises: press-up from a wall, ball squeezing at breast level.
For strengthening of muscles of a vagina carry out Kegel’s exercise - reduce vagina muscles as it is possible more strongly, detain for 5 seconds and be relaxed. It is possible to do exercise throughout all day several times. It is possible to complicate a little it - present, that you lift the lift on the third floor, being late on 2-3 seconds on each floor. Then also slowly “lower the lift”.
For restoration of elasticity of a skin it is possible to take a contrast shower and to use special softening a cream (do not get unknown persons of a cream if in the instruction possibility of use in a lactation is not stipulated!)
Consult to the gynecologist about carrying of a postnatal bandage. Both antenatal, and the postnatal bandage does not need to be got independently on own discretion. First, bandage carrying should be always supported by certain indications. Secondly, many women who have got a postnatal belt, have declared, that so never it not dressed. Do not try to predict presence of a stomach after childbirth.
If you have started to be engaged in sports (thus necessarily having consulted to the doctor) remember, that physical activity can cause change of taste of milk (at the expense of a lactic acid clump), but after the lapse of an hour after employment smack is erased.
Don’t try to eat as much as possible, spending interrelation between quantity of produced milk and quantity of the eaten nutrition. These are absolutely untied among themselves concepts. The ration of feeding mum should be balanced, but you are not obliged to eat not so for a two, and days of limited intake of food of times in a week (it is possible to include low-calorie nutritionand sour-milk products) will not affect a breastfedding.
Search for pluses of your position! Now you - beautiful, womanly, unusual.
As though the woman did not feel itself after childbirth, nevertheless a birth of the baby - the biggest holiday in a married couple life. Even if the body looks absolutely in another way is after all naturally, you became mother!
For someone restoration process passes quickly, and for someone is stretched on a year. But your true female appeal and charm remain invariable. Moreover - they are increased greatly.
Do not lose a self-confidence, find a place to little female cunnings and your life never will seem boring, cares of the kid burdening, and a female body a subject of own shame.
