This very male type can be found even in the happiest at first sight families. The husband is not an alcoholic, he does not smoke either, he may even be a very successful breadwinner, but as for living together with him – it is a real challenge. This person is sure he knows everything, even if he knows nothing in fact. He deeply believes in his own impeccability and influence he has on family members. All other family members should obey his rules without question. He torments everybody with his constant boring lectures. The tyrant believes he takes care of his family but in fact he just needs to feel the power.

The roots of this behavior go back to the childhood. The tyrant, who always reprimands his wife and children for everything they do, must have had one of his parents with the same type of personality. He was suppressed by his parents' power and always had a wish to wreak his anger on somebody because of his crushed childhood.

The attempt to change the tyrant's way of thinking is a complete waste of time. No one can change him. Smart people stay away from that person, but what about his wife and children? They can keep silence all the time, but can it be called freedom? In that type of families children become rioters and leave their homes pretty early. Or they grow up with immature and intimidated personality, and weak will. It is them who suffer from the home tyrant. He is always displeased with everybody, his most popular phrase is “What would you do without me?” And every member of the family knows for sure it would be much easier to live without such head of the family.

Home tyrant always holds the whole family in terror and strain; it is him who throws his wife and children's mentality into disorder. Who would stand everyday lectures and constant dissatisfaction with what ever other people do? He is the only one who can do things right!

Tyrant-perfectionist thinks he is a kind of Pygmalion, who knows exactly in what way everything should be done. He is the person who decides where the children should study, what the wife should wear, where they should go on vacation. He is able to put the self-appraisal of every family member to the lowest of low. Such person is able break one's personality without any scruples...

Many wives get used to not just listening to all the continual lectures of the boring despot. Not paying attention to all his provoking remarks of high attention moments.

In this case the soul is to suffer, but in more severe case all the suffering becomes physical. The tyrant-alcoholic is always ready to fight, he only calls for disgust, his spouse and children bear humiliation. The tyrant puts the blame on them for everything and has no mercy for them. This type of families is, unfortunately, well-spread in the modest layer of population in all countries. But the level of living does not always indicate the well-being of a family atmosphere.

The best way to struggle against tyranny in a family is to divorce. But sometimes wives have no place to go; after the divorce they will have nothing left. Because of this desperation one has to live with a tyrant in the same house ruining not only her life but also the future children life. Tyrants give rise to tyrants. These children, once they have grown up, retrieve their losses by becoming despots or hysterical women. They pass on the baton of insults, shouts, beating, and fury to their children and spouses. It does not sound like love at all! And these children do feel neither love nor respect for their parents.

The cause of such despotic behavior lies deep inside. There is no inner harmony, the person is a prey to doubts about his own importance, he is always discontent with himself, his status in the society, and his behavior, and he looks for the reason somewhere outside... He is not able to understand that he is not a leader; the way to help himself starts inside him.

There is an advice to be given to home tyrants. They should find out the original cause of their fears and doubts. All the shouts and insults, dissatisfaction with everything and everybody – are just a consequence, but the reason is always inside the person.

If it turned out that you could not control your behavior again, try to lick the wounds as fast as possible – say you are sorry, and admit your fault. These actions can help to strengthen the power of the head of the family. The acknowledgment of your own guilt is the way strong people behave. The tyrant asserts himself at somebody else's expenses because he is actually weak and defenseless.

And here is one very important thing - a memo to every tyrant: do not let your inner dragons gorge neither your family life nor yourself.