In what cases low libido can be treated as a serious disorder? The possible causes of a pathological form of reduced sexual desire are disorders in organ systems in the human body. Low libido is a symptom, just like a temperature, of an illness that should be healed. The situation is more difficult when there is no pathology. Different people treat their health in different ways. Some people with lung cancer continue smoking; avoid consulting a doctor, choosing to numb the pain with alcohol. At the same time other people visit their dentist every half a year without any signs of toothache. Regular sexual life is an index of good health state and the most pleasant form to keep fit. Nobody has died from lack of sex. But I can list probable consequences of long abstinence: myoma, mastopathy, and adenoid tumor. Some people consider reduced sex desire to be a serious problem, while others take it easy. From my own point of view, the second case means that a person deprives himself of full sexual life.

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Is low libido a frequent complaint among the patients? 50 Percent of patients who seek help from sexologists complain on reduced sex drive. The signs of low libido include anorgasmia (lack of orgasms), vaginismus (fear of sexual intercourse), sexual and psychological disorders. How one can treat the problem? It depends on a person, each case is individual. Pathogenetic treatment deals with causes. A comprehensive approach includes the analysis of life style, psychohygiene, relations. Roles of partners, as well as their erogenous zones are thoroughly studied; a system of “sex launching” is developed; a course of special physical exercises and physiotherapy is prescribed. Pharmacotherapy and psychotherapeutic methods are wide-spread. Such approach shows success rates at 80–90%. According to the common opinion, disorders with sex drive are mostly female problems. What do you think, who is more subject to it – men or women? Considering that a male hormone testosterone is responsible for sexual health and sex drive, libido level in men should be higher than in women. But from my point of view, reduced libido levels in comparison with a norm in men and women are approximately equal. However, in the last 15 years the representatives of the stronger sex have started to lose their positions, especially in large cities. Which “norm” is that than?

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The conventional physiological rhythm implies the wish and the ability to have sexual intercourse 2 or 3 times a week in favorable conditions. However, the fluctuations are possible. Sexual desire is influenced by a wide range of factors, e.g. illnesses; sleep disorders; chronic mental exhaustion; novelty of relations. Are there any connections between loss of libido and way of life? The principle is: worse is less and vice versa; but, of course, the norms of your age and constitution should not be exceeded. What are main causes of the problem for both men and women? Regular sexual routine contributes to a lack of sexual desire in men, when his partner turns into “mother” or “friend” instead of being a lover. Quite often my female patients are sure that their husbands have disorders and cannot perform their masculine duties. Therefore they are trying to solve the problem with the medical help; while the true cause is Internet and masturbation.

The most common causes of sexual dysfunction in women include mental and physical exhaustion, especially after giving birth. Lack of sleep is also directly linked to decreased libido. Sex drive is harmed by mechanical, coarse and primitive sexual relations. Unfortunately, jokes about “ceiling contemplation” during sexual intercourse have an obvious basis. How long do women suffer from low sexual desire after having a baby? The rehabilitation period can last up to three years. But improvements are visible after 6 months. If after that period of time a woman still suffers from low libido I advise her to consult a sexologist, as this can lead to desactualisation of sex behavior (decreased meaning of sex in a person’s life) and partial loss of sexual skills. In such situations men withdraw in a shell, and sometimes (especially at age between 40 and 50) this process is irreparable. Some men find mistresses, complaining that their wives show neither attention nor love. The situation is especially tragic when men suggest living separately in the moment when his child needs both parents. Is it possible that both spouses feel tired from each other?

When people are not interested in each other, their sexual desire certainly disappears. It is really important to understand that one should care about his or her relationship with the spouse not only before the wedding but for life. If both partners understand that simple rule, they can save their marriage and enrich relationship. I have elaborated a special program, which is called “the second honeymoon”. According to my observations, a lot can be improved in time. I would even say, quite often couples confess, that their second honeymoon was better than the first one.

You already know all and don’t require any councils in the field of sex, besides anybody, except you, it does not concern. And nevertheless, the love and sex relations can be enriched continuously.

The habit is not too inevitable, and imaginations, even the most frank, will help to avoid it. To Make love better - means to pass from pure sex to erotica. To frame the Universe - private world of the union of two people originating in so-called "sexual intercourse".

1. Dare to show the body

In relations of two people there should be prohibited zones and frankness. It is a little creativity, provocations which clear up and excite desire.

To show the body in all foreshortenings - means to check up the partner. If he likes to look, if he is able to do it and if it clears up in it "contemplator", the woman can easy be relaxed and believe in the power of the seduction, which all sides she can open. To present to the man contemplation of your genitals, to manage to overcome the bashfulness, to allow to him to feel a vulva trembling with desire, having erected it in a rank of aesthetic elements of a body, - all it can enrich in many respects erotic relations of the man and the woman.

2. Overestimate the anatomy

To study in love - means to study to use that the nature has given. Even if you find some parts of the body ugly or, at least, inappropriate to severe canons of an aesthetics. Big, little bit hanging down breasts which you hesitate in the street, can become magnificent erotic attributes. It is huge progress - to learn to maintain that is given by the nature: a smile, a view, a facial expression, wide hips etc.

3. Never to remain satisfied

Widespread situation: on the one hand, the woman masturbates and easily reaches an orgasm. On the other hand, the same woman who is afraid of sexual intercourse and not receiving from it any pleasure. Why not to transfer pleasure experience alone to relations with the partner? For example, to enter a masturbation into a habitual course of employment by sex, to or after sexual intercourse. It can be carried out both the woman, and her partner.

4. To look after genitals

Make the genitals more attractive. An epilation of zone "bikini", to which women resort in the summer to appear on a beach, should become a habit and be made throughout all year. Be engaged in length of hair, a pubis epilation. Genitals are very individual, as well as face, there are no two identical. It is necessary to underline it.

5. Decorate the body

In the natural kind the human body is not very attractive to other person. In the social plan it promotes protection against aggression. If there was no this brake of physical aversion, all of us would risk to become participants of an enormous orgy on scales.

In intimate relations unattractiveness of a body in a natural kind can by an obstacles to pleasure. Without a doubt drop decorate the body costume jewelers, a make-up, underwear, scented water.

6. To make erotic all

Silly to have the house with twenty five rooms, and to live only in a penthouse. In other words, to be content only with sexual intercourse in a vagina. Huge prospects are opened by investigation of all zone hidden by underwear and bashfulness. Zone anus (or anal sex) is not less sensitive, than zone of a clitoris. Naturally, this zone demands for excitation of refined caresses which are important, instead of are a banal prelude before a coitus.

7. To raise sensitivity of a female breast

Many women hide the breast during employment by love, including it the beautiful does not suffice. A breast as glandular formation, it is not sensitive. For excitation are important nipple surface and areola. Than more attention it is given to it, their sensitivity especially increases. Simultaneous stimulation of a clitoris and nipple surface leads to interdependent reaction of these two primary erogenous zones which are on some distance from each other.

8. To search for new senses

Usually penetration of a man's phallus into a vagina of the woman is preceded by input (more often, hastily) a finger as obligatory gesture, is not enough of itself justifying. To the woman it can be very pleasant, if the man investigates this vaginal zone one, two and even three fingers, is gentle it dilating, and by that opening inside her bodies pleasure sources, at times unknown hitherto.

9. To cross through disgust

Sexual intercourse, standard and simplified, does not generate usually feeling of disgust as excludes caresses, a cunnilingus or even a simple kiss which enter into contact of a liquid one and others. In other words, sex is first of all an exchange of liquids (skin evaporations, natural greasing of a vagina, a saliva, an ejaculation). And a priori, anything so does not push away, as the liquids having a specific smell. They become exciting only in case of overcoming of the disgust which has arisen in the childhood because of obsession education of feeling of cleanliness. That bilateral oral sex became possible, it is necessary to improve appearance of genitals. If, the view brings pleasure, the desire to kiss spontaneously enough is born, and having felt an attractive smell not to stop on the reached. We exchange views - disgust is overcome; we touch, we lick, we catch a smell of zones habitually closed for a view and penetration of a mouth. Naturally, elementary hygiene should be strictly observed. It is possible to pick up also special spirits for such places.

10. Don’t Speak

As we don't advise to continue untimely caresses, so it is not necessary to abuse remarks (make to me and don’t do so) as you risk to mine an erotic field. Not all can be sexy in bed. Words blast secret.

11. To be able to tell "no"

To oral contact if you not so want it, and to any other action, at present the undesirable. If soft introduction of one or two fingers in a vagina don’t bring any pleasant sensations, reject it for some time. The woman can test itself reaction of the body to those or other caresses that then it is more successful to refer and supervise the man's initiative.

Stimulation of a clitoris which hurts from excessive diligence, the man's breast strongly compressed in an impulse of passion: it is necessary to stop necessarily these actions which don’t bring pleasant sensations so - tenderly to tell about it to the lover (mistress).

12. To overestimate an orgasm

It is a sign of enrichment of personal experience, the statement of the "I". To reach it is means to prove, that you already have an experience. Pleasure can be compared to singing in relation to a voice. Years are necessary to train a voice. Reaching an orgasm, you become the experienced sex partner.

13. To recognize vital importance... Behind a kiss

The kiss - a love sign - should be present not only during first time of relations of two lovers. He should find the place and then among other caresses, merging together feeling and desire. Passing this gentle crossroads and continuing to go further, don’t forget to come back endlessly to it!

14. Use subjects for pleasure achievement

Subjects, such as the vibrator, have one disadvantage - they are on sale mainly in sex shops, places not so attractive. Having there is some cunning and attention, it is possible to find in catalogues of sale the written order for a long time known subjects of massage which can be applied not absolutely to destination. So, it is possible to find out the vibrator absolutely phallus of the form, which girls use to improve "a face skin circulation". It is possible to use also a stream of water from a shower (it has already entered into classics). The man who dares to caress the woman by means of any subject, agrees to lose some power: something another, instead of his penis, can bring pleasure to his partner; the man in this case shows generosity and nobleness (and also a maturity).

Advantage of these subjects? The vibrator referred on a clitoris during penetration into a vagina, can cause very intensive orgasm. The Dildo added to introduction of a penis, will allow the woman at whom the feeling of imagination is developed, to present (why would be not present?) presence of two men.

15. Will enrich imaginations

To have impudence to use as required amusing toys, various accessories (handcuffs, a bandage for eyes). It allows to dilate imagination borders. Entering game elements, you leave frameworks of habitual sex relations. It allows to reject conventions, to establish atmosphere of trust and more deeply to comprehend sensuality each other.

16. The woman is able to tell to the man: "I love, when you kiss me on a neck".

Men usually badly know themselves. Hardly in such conditions to define what to do from 2,5 square meters of his skin. Caress his body how you would caress a body of the woman. Open his erogenous zones (a breast, a nape, a neck) to which not enough attention earlier was given. Here the woman should operate unexpectedly, having dared to caress zone which sensuality the man does not guess.

17. Define a rhythm

Love movement backwards-forward means rhythmic which has the direct relation to the dance, some degree of possession of a body, synchronism search. All of us have a sixth feeling - feeling kinesthetic which is some kind of ability to perceive movement. From such measured movement what sexual intercourse is, it is difficult to take pleasure, if the pair the lovers does not come to a mutual rhythm.

18. To open an immovability

Instinctively we have got used to that sexual intercourse is first of all movement. Why not to look for the opposite?. During penetration deep into women it is possible to stop and be late in such position: one in other. Additional advantage: the immovability detains an ejaculation. This programmed calmness allows to strengthen also embraces, to renew kisses. Suddenly there is a redistribution of sex energy, at level of a view, contact of a skin, arms. The woman can try to compress muscles of breeches and a fundament during this moment, and the partner does not remain to it insensible. And he in turn can reduce pelvis muscles that will even more strengthen an erection.

19. Not to confuse imaginations and a distortion

Any imaginations in a sex life are comprehensible. The fear to reach a distortion is unreasonable. Rituals and games don’t carry danger provided that they are unessential and only supplement, and after them you plunge again into a condition of gravity, love and pleasure.

20. To admit, that caresses can have borders

Be not afflicted, if you caress a mouth a man's penis and as the result, does not follow an ejaculation. Understand, that oral sex is thought up not only for this purpose. It’s far in sense of dynamics from a masturbation which is to straight lines by to an outcome. Oral caresses provoke at the man strong emotions, delightful sensations from a kind of the woman which carries out this act sensually and selflessly. But the ejaculation thus is not obligatory.

21. To interrupt sexual intercourse

No, movements backwards-forward insufficiently. It is a pity those who goes in cycles in it. During sexual intercourse there are various kinds of stimulation and other dodges which help to increase excitation and to finish each other to ecstasy, it is a lot of having taken pleasure in process. Step through stereotypes. The woman can take in hand the initiative in a position choice (it - from above) and stopping. Movement discontinuing is already higher step in a sex life of partners.

To return to sex caresses, then again to begin. But it any more caresses of a love prelude... We are in a condition of a sex unification. If oral caresses take place, they should be sensitive and gentle: too intensive movements can bring a pain to your partner (partner). Then the woman can take the initiative and again take hold of a situation.

22. To grease a condom

We will not come back neither to necessity of this bagatelle, nor to difficulty to make its erotic. But, at least, it is known, that the greasing disadvantage conducts behind itself sensitivity dropping. Factory greasing of a condom is poor enough, and we confirm it, knowing about a condition of things not by hearsay. So can, not doubting to add greasing.

23. To enter "drama"

To make sexual intercourse completely successful - means to be able not to dramatize "to", to give exclusive importance to action "during time". Play, beginning to give more forces to that becomes already serious. "The small death" is not mere words. All preliminary entertainments is a desire which increases, this creativity. We find pleasure, but also a short instant of suffering in an orgasm.

24. To consider to three

Less than three positions during one sexual intercourse are not absolutely enough. Three - here number of positions which allows the woman to test various sensations, and to the man to show, that he is able to supervise the ejaculation, and to both of them together - to prolong sexual intercourse time. And finish you can in a pose which prefer all to the rests.

25. To play words

The second function of words after informative is an enrichment of sensations. Vulgar words can provoke an obscene scene. Try to test effect made by them. Foul language can strengthen excitation, framing not ordinary situation.

26. To recognize a difference of genders

Desire, caresses, a love heat, merge of bodies and feelings, and then calm: after sex there is a risk of loneliness as it is necessary to meet face to face nature laws. At the woman tenderness and desire remain and after sexual intercourse; but the man who is falling asleep on command of the mother of the nature - this sad reality is well-known. Non-recognition of this difference between the man and the woman - a misunderstanding and dissonance source. To support emotional contact between the man and the woman, it is enough to put very tenderly a hand on calmed down penis of the beloved.

27. To enrich the dictionary

If we also have advised to you to season love embraces by a strong word, it is necessary to realize, nevertheless, what not any word will suit; not too simply to pick up the necessary words, differently you risk to shock the partner. In this case the economy of words is a necessary game of precaution. To avoid the pornographic dictionary, why not to force to work imagination, something to invent (if there is such talent) and by that to enrich verbal caresses with poetic comparisons.

28. To refuse myths

It is forgotten, has sunk into oblivion: it is not necessary to speak more about orgasms "clitoral", "vaginal", intensive and is not present, good and bad... All it is incorrect, too incorrect. For example, we forget, that some women reach an orgasm only at a anal sex: how we name similar orgasms? Another receives extreme pleasure, to what not touching and when her don’t touch too. There is no classification of orgasms, only in one case it is possible to mention hierarchy: when we speak about a harmony of a combination of partners.

29. To find optimum movement

For the mistress not so it is easy to find true movement of a masturbation which will lead the man to pleasure top is unique. Dialogue is necessary, the man should control the woman very softly. But to lead the man of an ejaculation by means of caresses at times happens as difficult how to find one of all possible a set of digits which opens the coded door.

30. To fall outside the limits a bed

To make love on floor, in a bath is one more proof of a maturity of partners. You can be interested in it and for other reason: to avoid a treacherous scratch which, happens, it is persistent follows each movement. Believe, the earth-mother will not bring you. One more instant of pleasure in a combination to the nature, a touch to the earth can be also an additional source of pleasure.

31. Synchronism: we will avoid obsession

To supervise an ejaculation not so and it is easy for the man. For this purpose he should know well enough the organism to warn the partner that further he to restrain can’t any more. The simultaneity of orgasms is some kind of Elbrus, which so uneasy to reach.

But not all so is terrible. The woman can reach an orgasm before it will be made by her partner, and even some times. Here and chance for the man to show degree of the love. He recognizes, that his second half possesses the ability of an orgasm many times over exceeding his own.

 

 

The notion female ejaculation (or squirting) refers to the expulsion of colourless fluid by women before an orgasm or during it. For a long time, this physiological phenomenon, in particular its source and nature, has been a hotly debated question; and till now there is no common scientific opinion on this issue.

The first controversial point is a fact of existence of a female ejaculation. According to some opinions, the expulsion of fluid is nothing more than an incontinence of urine during an orgasm. However, the analysis of the ejaculatory fluid disproved the theory. The consistence of the fluid is denser than that of urine; it has no odor, no taste and usually no color, although it can be whitish. The second point of view is that female ejaculation is nothing but some vaginal lubrication. This theory has also been disputed by researches of the female ejaculation, as the mucous membrane of the vagina starts lubricating right after women’s sexual arousal, instead of in the end of a sexual intercourse.

Another subject of disputes in modern sexology is the source of this specific ejaculatory fluid. One group argues that the secretion of the fluid is caused by paraurethral glands and their ducts which surround a female urethra. This gland formation is known as the female prostate. Another group suggests that the fluid is produced by a so-called G-Spot which was first described by a German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg and which is situated on the anterior wall of the vagina. They claim that G-Spot stimulation can lead to powerful orgasms accompanied by a female ejaculation.

Despite considerable differences in opinions, the most of women understand at last what happens with their bodies at high levels of sexual pleasure. It may especially be helpful for those who suffer from anorgasmia caused by a psychological trauma, and beliefs of the woman about sex problems she may have. Such sex phenomenon as a female ejaculation was often mistaken for an urinary incontinence. <!-- adman -->It provoked an inferiority complex – many women experienced shame and had to restrain themselves and not to receive an orgasm, in order not to produce the fluid, so the sex partner did not have any suspicions and undesirable reactions.

Thanks to the recognition of a female ejaculation many couples are able to acquire the missing sexual harmony, and women feel “full-fledged”. Scientists do not insist on compulsion of this physiological phenomenon at all representatives of the weaker sex, speaking about the probability of its occurrence at 95% of women.

In order to achieve a female ejaculation the following points should be considered as essential for success: high level of sexual arousal, correct stimulation and trained vaginal muscles. Strong vaginal muscles enhance the ability to receive the maximum discharge with or without a female ejaculation. Special Kegel exercises, special training equipment and the technique of discontinuing of urination are considered to be helpful in strengthening the vaginal muscles. It is possible to use all these methods together for faster and effective results.

The given information cannot be regarded as an appeal to urging towards achieving the female ejaculation. Even though this phenomenon can enrich the sex experience of both partners, it should be more like an accompaniment to a great orgasm than an end in itself. The presence or the absence of a female ejaculation is normal and is not a sign of any sexual pathology.

The recognition of a female ejaculation helps a great number of women to avoid various sex complexes and gives an opportunity to feel the freedom of spontaneous sex self-expression.

Nowadays, even elderly people lead an active life - they travel and continue doing the things they enjoyed in their youth, including sex. It is generally known that all ages are submissive to love. Intimacy is usually a follow-up of romantic feelings.

Both men and women wish to continue fulfilling relationships at any age. A healthy sex life has a positive influence on all aspects of our life, including our physical health and self-esteem.

Although cinema and television are persistently trying to convince us that only teenagers and young people have sex, mildly speaking it is not true. The need for intimacy does not disappear with the years. It is impossible to “outgrow” a need for love, emotional closeness and intimacy. Most people still have sexual fantasies at the age of 80 and 90.

It is true that the sex at 80 is not the same as it was at 20, but it does not really mean that sex life of the elderly can no longer be satisfying and enjoyable. It will be easier for you to prepare yourself for possible problems in sex life if you understand age-related changes that happen in your body and in the body of your partner.

Natural age-related changes

As you know, your body grows older and simply "wears out"; and these natural age-related changes can affect your sexual relations. Although physical changes are usually the most discussed issue, you should not forget about the psychological changes your body undergoes.

Physical changes

Testosterone regulates both men's and women's sex drive (libido). Aging men and women produce enough testosterone to maintain their interest in sex. Even though some aspects of sex will cause more difficulties as you age, these changes offer an incentive to try new positions and techniques.

Age-related physical changes in women's organisms are generally connected with menopause and decreased levels of estrogen. Most women have less vaginal lubrication as they get older and it takes longer for the vagina to lubricate during sexual arousal. Your vagina becomes less elastic. All these changes may make your sexual intercourse less comfortable or even painful. In addition to that, women can feel burning pain and during penetration or discover vaginal bleeding after a sexual intercourse.

In order to stimulate your natural vaginal lubrication, it is helpful to make foreplay a focus. Another solution to this problem is the usage of water-based sexual lubricants, such as K-Y jelly, conjugated estrogen creams or estrogen replacement therapy. Regular sex helps to maintain lubrication and elasticity of the vagina. Long-term sexual abstinence can cause the loss of vaginal elasticity, so it may take some time to stretch vagina to accept a penis. Talk to your partner about slower movements in order to minimize your pain.

Psychological changes

Maintaining your ability to have sex at elderly age depends not only on your body, but also on your mind. If you feel embarrassed or ashamed of your sexual needs, anxiety and stress can have a negative impact on your ability to become aroused. Age-related changes in your appearance may also influence your emotional sincerity and the ability to have sexual relations. The more wrinkles and grey hairs you notice, the less self-esteem you have. You do not feel attractive. Negative self-feeling restrain your sexual desire, as you feel unworthy of sexual attention from your partner and do not trust him.

Stresses and worries about sexual performance and possible failures can provoke male impotence (Erectile dysfunction) and female frigidity (sexual arousal disorder). Slow down and you will be able to avoid emotional pressure.

Discuss this topic with your partner and tell him about your worries and anxiety. His or her support will help you to boost your confidence up.

How to improve your sex life, as you age

Many elderly people consider their current sex life to be richer than in their youth. They are sure that sex gets better with age, as good wine. Improving your sex life requires talking with your partner about sex problems and fantasies, and making changes in your sex program.

Expand your conception of sex

Sex is not just a series of physical exercises for your satisfaction. Sex is more than a vaginal penetration. When getting older, many people begin appreciating intimate talks before and after sex, which make a sexual intercourse more interesting. Sexual petting can be a good alternative to the intercourse, and caressing, even simple cuddling, can lead to an orgasm (recollect the movie "Last Tango in Paris"). Think about erotic massage, masturbation or oral sex.

Communicate with your partner more often.

Nothing can bring you closer to your partner as communication. Discuss the changes you are going through to understand how to do away with discomfort and make your sex life better. A different position or some other sexual activity, such as massage or cuddling might become a solution. Question your partner about his or her needs and fantasies, and think over how you can satisfy them. The discussion of sex issues itself is arousing and can become a wonderful foreplay.

Make changes to your sex routine

Simple changes can improve your sex life. Fix a different time for sex; choose a time when you feel more energetic. Try making love in the morning, when you feel refreshed after a night sleep and do not postpone sex to the end of a long day, when you are tired and exhausted. As it may take longer for you to become aroused, take more time to set a romantic stage, e.g. a romantic dinner, an evening party for two or dancing. Try new sexual positions; do not stick to a missionary position. Find a position, which is comfortable for you and your partner.

Manage your expectations

If you did not have a frequent sex in your early days, you should not expect to become a "sex-machine" in your middle life. Maybe you were used to expressing your intimacy in other ways, such as an absorbing conversation. If that is the case, the situation will be the same when you become older. Couples who enjoyed frequent sex when they were younger are more likely to continue that as they age.

Your health is in your hands

A healthy diet and regular sport exercises help you stay in good shape. As a result, you will be fit and prepared for sex at any age. Try keeping a balanced diet, rich in fruit and vegetables. Exercise regularly, at least 30 minutes a day, on every day of the week. Drink less alcohol, as it decreases sexual potency at both men and women. Illegal drugs, such as marijuana and cocaine, have a negative impact on sexual functions, too.

If you do not have a sexual partner, it does not really mean you should give up sex for lost. More then a half of people over 65 are single in the US. Even at this age you can fins a new love or experience a new romance that will lead to intimacy. Women live longer than men. That is why there are more single women in the world, and it is quite difficult to find a partner for them at a mature age. Try visiting such places where it is possible to meet people of your age, such as special geriatric centers and stores. It is never late to start a new relationship.

Do not forget about safe sex when you have a new sex partner. Many elderly couples ignore this rule as they are sure they are not at risk of venereal diseases, including AIDS. Contrary to a popular belief, AIDS is not a disease of young people. In the United States of America more than 10 percent of AIDS-infected are people over 50. Every sexually active person, regardless of their age, can contract a venereal disease. Do not change your sex partner or practice safe sex by using condoms. Discuss the opportunities of being tested for HIV with your sexual partner. Elderly people take a HIV tests quite seldom

Consult your doctor

Elderly people feel embarrassed to discuss sex issues with their doctors. However, such conversations can help you to understand age-related changes of your body and mind, and their influence on your sexual activity.

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Nowadays female or male infertility is no more a barrier for a child birth. It is possible for a woman to bear and have a child no matter what type of infertility she or her partner has. After a careful and meticulous examination of both partners, a gynecologist will tell them what to do. Female infertility can be formally divided into primary infertility (without any previous pregnancy of a woman) and secondary infertility (when there has already been at least one pregnancy). The usual cause of the secondary infertility is a first abortion.

Among various factors of the female infertility the most common are:

• hormonal imbalance;
• premature menopause (before the age of 45);
• polycystic ovarian syndrome;
• hostile cervical mucus (when mucus produced by glands in the cervical canal is too thick to allow sperm to access the cervix, which can sometimes be a result of cervical erosion);
• Fallopian tube obstruction (inflammatory process or inborn abnormality);
• Ovarian scarring (consequences of infections or surgery);
• Follicle fails to rapture and the egg, therefore, remains inside the ovary (the most common explanation of infertility);
• Uterine malformations (inborn abnormalities, uterine myoma, endometriosis);
• Constant stresses which can cause menstrual disorders and infertility.

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Male infertility can also be primary (female partners fail to get pregnant), and secondary (when there has already been at least one pregnancy). Main causes of the male infertility are impaired sperm production, impaired sperm delivery and a decrease in the number of sperm. It is also may be due to ejaculation problems and dilated veins in the scrotum (Varicoceles).

In vitro fertilization is one of the most effective methods of infertility treatment.

IVF is a method of assisted reproduction when a fertilization of an egg occurs outside the female body. After that, the embryo is transferred into the uterine cavity.

Indications for IVF are as following:

- tubal infertility (the fallopian tubes are blocked or damaged);

- endocrine infertility (e.g. polycystic ovary syndrome);

- endometriosis;

- infertility of unknown causes (after examination);

- male infertility (deterioration of sperm quality).

Medical examination prior to the IVF

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It is necessary to examine the reproductive system of both man and woman before the IVF. Clinical screenings include examination of the endocrine profile, disease screening, and semen analysis. X-ray examination and ultrasound scan help to reveal health problems and understand a cause of infertility.

The IVF procedure

The IVF procedure starts with a preparation of the proper environment in the woman’s body. The menstrual cycle is regulated so that it becomes possible to control the ovulation and retrieve the eggs from the ovaries. Special medications are used, which suppress female hormone production.

The next phase is stimulation. The ovaries are stimulated to produce multiple eggs. The ultrasound helps to keep track of the follicle production. The larger and mature eggs mean higher chances of their fertilization. Special fertility drugs are administered to stimulate the ovaries. They are individually selected for every couple.

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When the eggs are judged to be mature, they are retrieved with the help of the needle piercing the follicle through the vagina under direct ultrasound guidance. At the same time the sperm of the father-to-be is prepared for fertilization.

The sperm and the egg are incubated together for some days to get fertilized. They are constantly examined and the most viable embryos are chosen.

With the help of the special catheter the embryos are transferred to the uterus through the cervix on the second, third or the fifth day after the piercing of the follicles. Two or more embryos are usually transferred. The unused viable embryos may be stored frozen, and used later if the patients fail to conceive.

After the embryo transfer a patient should take progesterone for 2 weeks. After a two-week period the woman should do a blood test to check her chorionic gonadotropin level in order to find out if she is pregnant. In case of pregnancy the doctor observes the woman until the baby is born.

Sometimes even after several IVF cycles a woman fails to get pregnant. In such a case intracytoplasmic sperm injection (ICSY) is applied, in which a single sperm is injected directly into an egg with a help of a thin needle.

Infertility is not a reason for despair. In most cases after constant medical examination and proper treatment women are able to become pregnant.

Each of the stages of pregnancy, known as trimesters, has its own unique characteristics. The first trimester is defined as the period from the date of conception through week 12. The second trimester lasts from week 12 through week 24 and the third trimester is week 24 to the moment the child is born.

First trimester of pregnancy (from the date of conception to week 12)

Due to the new demands of fetal development, the body of a pregnant woman undergoes complicated protective and adaptive changes. The central nervous system and endocrine glands perform regulatory functions controlling the reorganization of body.

After implantation of the embryo into the endometrial lining of the uterus, the woman’s body starts producing the sex hormone progesterone. It has an immediate influence on the development of the embryo and changes in the mother’s body. The ovaries continue to produce progesterone for about 9 or 10 weeks and after that time, the fetoplacental system (adrenal cortex and liver of the pregnant woman and the fetus) takes responsibility for hormonal function.

There are two developmental stages: embryonic period (first 8 weeks of pregnancy) and fetal period (from the 9^th week to the birth). During the embryonic period, the formation of various types of tissues occurs. The fetal period is characterized by the growth of the baby, and the development of its organs and functional systems.

Under the influence of progesterone, breasts tend to enlarge; nipples uplift and the skin surrounding them (areola) become darker and wider. Progesterone can also cause constipation, as it causes relaxation of smooth intestinal muscles, and therefore decreases the strength and the frequency of bowel contractions. It is advisable to drink plenty of fluids in order to prevent constipation.

Often, in the first weeks of pregnancy women suffer from queasiness and nausea which are triggered by the hormonal changes the body undergoes.  These discomforts usually go away as the pregnancy proceeds. However, sometimes they continue during all the stages of pregnancy.

Fatigue is common during this period, but this feeling will subside by the second trimester. It is related to the changes in body and energy drain. The real cure for the first trimester fatigue is to sleep 9 or 10 hours every night.

During the first trimester, miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy are possible.

Ectopic pregnancy is a complication where the fertilized egg implants outside the uterine cavity, usually in the fallopian tubes. The growth of the embryo here may result in the major internal hemorrhage and is the reason why an ectopic pregnancy is a potential medical emergency requiring surgery.

Another complication of pregnancy in the first trimester is if the fetal heartbeat stops. In this case the pregnancy will not continue. Dilation (or dilatation) and curettage is performed with laboratory examination to follow.

Second trimester of pregnancy (from week 12 to week 24)

The hormones of the fetoplacental system are responsible for many of the physiological changes in the in the woman’s body. They regulate water-salt metabolism (the retention of sodium at the same time can lead to swelling or edema), increase the volume of circulating blood and stimulate the growth of the uterus and breasts.

Due to lower levels of progesterone, queasiness and nausea subside. In the middle of the second trimester, a woman experiences the first feelings of fetal movement. The breasts may start producing yellowish fluid – the first milk, called colostrum. As the growing uterus presses on the intestines, constipation may become more common and heartburn may occur.

During the second trimester of pregnancy, the baby’s organs are forming and changes in the woman’s body continue. Complications of this period are the following: late miscarriage, bleedings (the usual reason is the presentation of placenta), iron-deficiency anemia, and oxygen starvation (hypoxia) of the fetus. It is very important for the fetus to get enough oxygen in the second trimester, because this period is characterized by the intensive development of the brain. A lack of oxygen can quickly begin to take its toll: the movements of the fetus change, and the fetal heart rate is affected.

During the third trimester the uterus is actively growing, fetal movements are increasing, and labor pains may sometimes occur. They should only last for several minutes and stop after the body position changes. These labor pains push the fetus towards the maternal passages. That is why there is no reason to be scared. However, in the case of frequent labor pains (several times per hour) it is important to consult a doctor.

The increased pressure of the uterus on the urinary bladder may cause frequent urination. As the expanding uterus pushes the diaphragm, and the baby requires enough oxygen, the woman may feel shortness of breath. The pregnant woman may feel tired and suffer from sleeping problems. The reason for it is increasing physical and emotional stress.

Some kinds of malformation and swellings can be detected during the third trimester. Often, the general condition of the pregnant woman (late pregnancy toxemia, for example) can trigger blood flow problems in the uterine vessels, as well as placental and umbilical vessels. These changes can be the cause of abnormalities of fetal growth and development, and oxygen starvation.

An incorrect positioning of the fetus can also be revealed during this period and it is vital to detect any abnormalities beforehand as it defines the steps to be taken during the birth process.

All pregnant women should regularly consult their obstetrician-gynecologist, who will be able to detect and explain all changes over the course of pregnancy.

To reach an orgasm at all so it is simple - if you the woman! Almost all men without effort reach an orgasm with any partner, however women are arranged differently. However, the most regrettable at all it, and that to the overwhelming majority of men and women this fact remains to unknown persons.

Let's look to the truth in eyes - all books, films and in particular magazines for girls and women draw rather tempting picture, representing women constantly raised sexly attractive beings always ready to sex and without effort reaching orgasm. A problem that this representation at all does not correspond to the validity.

Therefore for the women mismatching this image, - that is for the majority - such divergence between the representation imposed to mass-media about the modern woman and a reality can appear rather painful.

The large quantity of young women worries because of own disability to reach an orgasm. However the matter is that, unlike men, the majority of women needs for it to study.

Results of our research testify that the majority of women manages to reach an orgasm only in some years after the beginning of a sex life.

If to you 20 - 30

Even in twenty and thirty years many women cannot catch an illusive dark blue bird of an orgasm. Today the majority of sexologists believe, that disability to reach an orgasm (or problems with orgasm achievement) should push the woman to «independent exercises».

Well, this obvious decision, however many women even remain today diffident enough openly to recognise, that are engaged in a masturbation, and consider itself guilty of something very shameful. Know: the masturbation helps to learn precisely, what pressure and a rhythm is necessary to you to reach an orgasm. In particular, you need to investigate own body precisely to learn, how to stimulate a clitoris.

Yes, the masturbation helps you to learn more about an orgasm, however it is important to remember what to indulge in love with itself the most important thing, in loneliness follows in the comfortable and relaxed situation, and. Education of love to own body and research of the female essence should cause only positive and pleasant sensations, and it is impossible, if someone is torn in your bedroom or a bathroom, demanding immediately to leave and be engaged in supper preparation!

Having learnt without effort to reach an orgasm, you can tell and show to the partner, what exactly is necessary for you to come to finish.

If to you for 30

By then, when to you for 30, 40 or 50 you should learn without effort to reach an orgasm - certainly, near to the loving and careful partner.

However it is not necessary to forget, that at the majority of women ability to reach an orgasm strongly depends on a menstrual cycle. For the woman normally to feel special sex excitation in the middle of a menstrual cycle. However, some women worry excitation peak directly ahead of the menses beginning. Others notice, that are absolutely not inclined to sex during some periods of a cycle. And all it is absolutely normal.

However, if to you for 30, and you can count orgasms on fingers of one arm, that time to address for the help to the expert - to the doctor-sexologist.

Orgasm types

Thanks to Freud, the father-founder of a psychoanalysis, among men there is a delusion as if vaginal orgasms are characteristic for mature women while clitoral orgasms are more extended among young women.

Now this opinion is denied. Many sexologists confirm today - and usual women with them are solidary - that the difference between a vaginal and clitoral orgasm is unknown to them.

As a rule, women cannot reach an orgasm without clitoris stimulation, whether it be in the course of the sex act or a masturbation.

On the other hand, some women are assured, that can "terminate" without any additional stimulation of a clitoris, and assert, that an orgasm source - a vagina. However many sexologists consider, that in the course of sex in any case there is a stimulation of a clitoris which is delayed from top to bottom or is triturated by a man's body.

Yes, also do not forget about a G-point. Some women worry especially bright orgasm at stimulation of this point (which you can find without assistance on a forward wall of a vagina). Really, many women who do not disregard the G-point, assert, that intensive orgasms at them are accompanied by an ejaculation. Therefore there are bases to consider, that except a vaginal and clitoral orgasm, there is also a G-point orgasm.

To attention of men: than to help the partner

• do not forget, that the majority of women requires clitoris stimulation. It is a part of a female body which would turn to a penis if women developed as the man - therefore the clitoris for the woman is not less important, than a penis for the man.
• Constantly remember, that love, the romanticist, tenderness and benevolent atmosphere very much raise the woman, and prepare for sex not less, than your passionate caresses and kisses.
• do not hasten.
• caress a breast of the darling - for some women of it enough Is more often to reach an orgasm.
• give to her oral pleasure. The majority of women adores oral sex (cunnilingus), and some even admit, that cannot reach the ending without oral caresses.
• do not hesitate to ask to show the partner what exactly is necessary for her.
• From time to time leave the initiative for the partner and arrange role games.
• If you will lose the control and will appear at finish before the partner, try to find forces on a kiss and caresses which will help her to reach too an orgasm.
• do not get tired to repeat to the darling, how much she is fine, sex and irresistible.

The conclusion

The orgasm - inexpressible sensation, the lawful award which expects everyone in the end of a sex marathon, however sometimes renders this prize unattainable - when you are strained, have got tired or are unhappy with the partner. If your intimate life is saddened by doubts, do not hesitate to address for the help to the expert.Female orgasm: the guidebook for women

Nowadays mammary gland diseases are extremely well-spread among women. There is a great number of reasons behind these illnesses such as imbalanced hormonal background, high neurological load, age changes, lack in necessary nutrients, and environmental adversity.

Diffuse mastopathy. Cause and types

Mastopathy is characterized by growth of connective tissue and formation of cysts filled with transparent liquid. This disease is one of the most frequently happened to women. All in all almost half of the female population suffer from it.

A number of different factors can cause mastopathy. First of all it is heightened amount of female sex hormone – estrogen ­ in their blood. The reason for it is that less and less women decide to give birth to babies and breast feed them. During these periods other hormones come to the foreground (during pregnancy - female sex hormone progesterone, during breastfeed - prolactin) which block the formation of estrogen. Another reason of mastopathy is disturbances of childbearing functions. One can name abortion, high stress, not getting enough sleep, high neurological load, endocrine diseases, chronic disease of female genitals, as well as other organs and systems; inherited predisposition.

Mastopathy can develop on a certain spot of mammary gland (nodal mastopathy) or it can strike the whole tissue (diffuse mastopathy). Diffuse mastopathy itself is divided into diffuse fibrous mastopathy (growth of connective tissue only) and diffuse fibrous-nodal mastopathy (growth of connective tissue having cysts-saccules filled with transparent liquid).

Symptoms of diffuse mastopathy

Pain can be observed somewhere around the mammary gland in the middle and second half of menstrual cycle (right before menstruation) if a woman suffers from diffuse mastopathy. The pain can be nagging, piercing, arching; it can reverberate in the back or neck. Mammary glands coarsen, become dense, some secretion exude from the nipples. Mammary glands are evenly dense and painful under palpation. After menstruation mammary glands are usually evenly dense, a little heavy, and painful.

Furthermore, women with diffuse mastopathy have outward signs of heightened amounts of estrogen in the blood, dry skin, excess weight, menstrual period lasting more than 28 days, prolonged and plentiful menstruation, premenstrual syndrome, ovary cyst, and benign tumor of their uterus.

Diagnostics of diffuse mastopathy

Giving diagnosis includes data from doctor's medical examination (mammary surgeon), ultrasound and roentgenologic studies of mammary glands, hormonal blood test, and laboratory examination of biologic material which was taken from the mammary glands by biopsy.

Multiple cysts in both mammary glands can be found after ultrasonic examination (US). During this study doctors can see cyst's size and enlarged gland ducts. Mammography study allows you to identify epithelial (mammary tissue) and connective-tissue (gland ducts and bundles) structure of the gland, determine the right kind of mastopathy, the extension level of hardening, and the presence of benign or malignant tumor in the mammary glands.

Laboratory studies show hormone balance distractions, especially in sex and thyroid glands (hormonal blood test); enlargement of connective tissue, and presence of malignant tumor cells (study of biological environmental by biopsy).

Diffuse mastopathy treatment

The decision whether to treat a patient for diffuse mastopathy or not is made by a doctor after a very detailed examination. Almost in all cases such women visit their doctors on a regular basis so they can timely reveal the presence of a malignant tumor.

Diffuse mastopathy treatment is conducted in a conservative way. To improve one's metabolic process (which influences hormonal background in a good way) it is recommended to keep on a diet. Meals should be mostly of milk and vegetables and contain a lot of fresh and soaked vegetables, cooked cereals, leguminous plants, and organic animal fat. Intestine dysbacteriosis can stop vitamins from absorption. Its treatment includes vitamin-mineral complex and bio-active food additive.

Physical exercises are strongly recommended (going in for sports or exercise therapy, depending on level of health). Other ways of treatment are physio-therapeutic procedures (electrotherapy, therapeutic mud-baths, and so on), along with psycho-therapeutic consultations (and treatment if needed).

Hormone and non-hormone medicine is prescribed if imbalanced hormone background is revealed. Female sex hormone progesterone (it helps to lower the amount of estrogen in blood), and thyroid gland hormone are types of hormone medicine.

Non-hormone medicine relieves disagreeable symptoms of mastopathy: Diuretic (removes issue edema), and sedative drugs, (drugs that help the liver to work removing toxic products through metabolic process), potassium drugs, enzymes, iodine drugs (stimulate thyroid gland), etc.

Mastopathy is one of the risk factors of mammary glands cancer thus regular visits to mammary surgeon are a necessity.

revenge

There are stories about revenge everywhere you look. It excites a lot of minds and feelings in people which can also cause them to suffer and loose their appetite. In fact, there is very little difference between love and revenge. A person constantly thinks about something, experiences very strong feelings for it. Sounds as if it is all about something that person likes a lot. The only difference is that one feeling is constructive and the other one - destructive. Let's talk about whether revenge is useful or harmful. Is it okay to take vengeance on somebody? Is it really necessary to do that? What means of revenge are acceptable and what are not?

What is revenge?

Revenge is pretty often compared with a disease. Indeed it can consume a person, turn them into a slave so they can think about nothing but that feeling.

Revenge is destructive. It makes people feel the most negative emotions that one can only think of. Revenge can be found in different types of people, in those who suffer from sickly and outrageously big egos, from intolerance towards other people, from inability to forgive. Of course there are exceptions and it is quite possible to make even a very kind person plan revenge. But if it happens pretty often that you want to hurt back, it is time to think about it.

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Sometimes revenge can motivate a person to success in great accomplishments. Certain cases are known when people become prosperous, famous to spite their offenders.

Where does revenge come from?

There are plenty of reasons for revenge. It can be serious offenses, betrayals or a mockery. Though some people manage to take vengeance on others even without visible reasons. The desire to revenge usually follows unsatisfied people who are not self-confident either. For them it is another way to prove their importance to the world. Long suppression of a personality can cause all that. And now return suffering brings them pleasure.

Sometimes the cause for revenge can be envy. In this case it is very difficult to fight that feeling since objects of envy can change but a person stays where they were.

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The most popular reason is jealousy. Revenge makes jealous people act in such a way that many innocent people suffer.

Some people try to fight that feeling, others care for it and bring it up.

It is necessary to say that in most cases there are no reasons for revenge except for those situations which happen pretty seldom in our lives.

Should we fight revenge or indulge it?

Everyone should make their own decision. First of all you should think if the offense or the caused problem is so big that it is worth spending your time and energy on it. It is very important to know what the outcome of your deed will be. Will you get satisfaction or will you have to suffer even more? Will you prove whatever you wanted to somebody? And will you make your offender repent?

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If you look at the situation and the right answer to most of those questions is "No". In that case will you get desired satisfaction or will you imprison yourself in the whirlpool of revenge?

For the solution of any problem one can find other more effective ways rather than return punching. Sometimes a regular conversation or a simple ignorance of an irritating person can help to end a dispute and get rid of the desire for revenge.

If you are ready to revenge, what are the actions?

If you decided to fight back your offender be very cautious. Do not overdo anything that he or she did to you. If your neighbor makes you mad because she regularly floods your ceiling it doesn't mean you have to burn her apartment.

When choosing a way for your revenge you should not forget about the law. Sometimes people go too far and cause greater problems than they used to have before the revenge.

Your revenge should have a specific target. You should not take vengeance on everybody, and if you can not affect your offender maybe it is better just forget about it.

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Think about how other people would see you. You should not be even less-minded, ruder and savager than your offender. Would you like to have such a reputation?

If you can not predict the result of your revenge it is better to postpone the realization of your idea or maybe just leave it for good.

The main rule of all intriguers is no hurry. Revenge is a cold dish so you have less chances to make a mistake.

It is better for an offended person to forget for a moment about the overwhelming emotions . Then it would be obvious that revenge is not the only way to deal with any situation. Revenge does not only make several people suffer but also humiliates that person who tries to scheme against somebody. Really strong people always find strength to forgive or simply ignore their offender.