The notion female ejaculation (or squirting) refers to the expulsion of colourless fluid by women before an orgasm or during it. For a long time, this physiological phenomenon, in particular its source and nature, has been a hotly debated question; and till now there is no common scientific opinion on this issue.

The first controversial point is a fact of existence of a female ejaculation. According to some opinions, the expulsion of fluid is nothing more than an incontinence of urine during an orgasm. However, the analysis of the ejaculatory fluid disproved the theory. The consistence of the fluid is denser than that of urine; it has no odor, no taste and usually no color, although it can be whitish. The second point of view is that female ejaculation is nothing but some vaginal lubrication. This theory has also been disputed by researches of the female ejaculation, as the mucous membrane of the vagina starts lubricating right after women’s sexual arousal, instead of in the end of a sexual intercourse.

Another subject of disputes in modern sexology is the source of this specific ejaculatory fluid. One group argues that the secretion of the fluid is caused by paraurethral glands and their ducts which surround a female urethra. This gland formation is known as the female prostate. Another group suggests that the fluid is produced by a so-called G-Spot which was first described by a German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg and which is situated on the anterior wall of the vagina. They claim that G-Spot stimulation can lead to powerful orgasms accompanied by a female ejaculation.

Despite considerable differences in opinions, the most of women understand at last what happens with their bodies at high levels of sexual pleasure. It may especially be helpful for those who suffer from anorgasmia caused by a psychological trauma, and beliefs of the woman about sex problems she may have. Such sex phenomenon as a female ejaculation was often mistaken for an urinary incontinence. <!-- adman -->It provoked an inferiority complex – many women experienced shame and had to restrain themselves and not to receive an orgasm, in order not to produce the fluid, so the sex partner did not have any suspicions and undesirable reactions.

Thanks to the recognition of a female ejaculation many couples are able to acquire the missing sexual harmony, and women feel “full-fledged”. Scientists do not insist on compulsion of this physiological phenomenon at all representatives of the weaker sex, speaking about the probability of its occurrence at 95% of women.

In order to achieve a female ejaculation the following points should be considered as essential for success: high level of sexual arousal, correct stimulation and trained vaginal muscles. Strong vaginal muscles enhance the ability to receive the maximum discharge with or without a female ejaculation. Special Kegel exercises, special training equipment and the technique of discontinuing of urination are considered to be helpful in strengthening the vaginal muscles. It is possible to use all these methods together for faster and effective results.

The given information cannot be regarded as an appeal to urging towards achieving the female ejaculation. Even though this phenomenon can enrich the sex experience of both partners, it should be more like an accompaniment to a great orgasm than an end in itself. The presence or the absence of a female ejaculation is normal and is not a sign of any sexual pathology.

The recognition of a female ejaculation helps a great number of women to avoid various sex complexes and gives an opportunity to feel the freedom of spontaneous sex self-expression.

revenge

There are stories about revenge everywhere you look. It excites a lot of minds and feelings in people which can also cause them to suffer and loose their appetite. In fact, there is very little difference between love and revenge. A person constantly thinks about something, experiences very strong feelings for it. Sounds as if it is all about something that person likes a lot. The only difference is that one feeling is constructive and the other one - destructive. Let's talk about whether revenge is useful or harmful. Is it okay to take vengeance on somebody? Is it really necessary to do that? What means of revenge are acceptable and what are not?

What is revenge?

Revenge is pretty often compared with a disease. Indeed it can consume a person, turn them into a slave so they can think about nothing but that feeling.

Revenge is destructive. It makes people feel the most negative emotions that one can only think of. Revenge can be found in different types of people, in those who suffer from sickly and outrageously big egos, from intolerance towards other people, from inability to forgive. Of course there are exceptions and it is quite possible to make even a very kind person plan revenge. But if it happens pretty often that you want to hurt back, it is time to think about it.

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Sometimes revenge can motivate a person to success in great accomplishments. Certain cases are known when people become prosperous, famous to spite their offenders.

Where does revenge come from?

There are plenty of reasons for revenge. It can be serious offenses, betrayals or a mockery. Though some people manage to take vengeance on others even without visible reasons. The desire to revenge usually follows unsatisfied people who are not self-confident either. For them it is another way to prove their importance to the world. Long suppression of a personality can cause all that. And now return suffering brings them pleasure.

Sometimes the cause for revenge can be envy. In this case it is very difficult to fight that feeling since objects of envy can change but a person stays where they were.

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The most popular reason is jealousy. Revenge makes jealous people act in such a way that many innocent people suffer.

Some people try to fight that feeling, others care for it and bring it up.

It is necessary to say that in most cases there are no reasons for revenge except for those situations which happen pretty seldom in our lives.

Should we fight revenge or indulge it?

Everyone should make their own decision. First of all you should think if the offense or the caused problem is so big that it is worth spending your time and energy on it. It is very important to know what the outcome of your deed will be. Will you get satisfaction or will you have to suffer even more? Will you prove whatever you wanted to somebody? And will you make your offender repent?

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If you look at the situation and the right answer to most of those questions is "No". In that case will you get desired satisfaction or will you imprison yourself in the whirlpool of revenge?

For the solution of any problem one can find other more effective ways rather than return punching. Sometimes a regular conversation or a simple ignorance of an irritating person can help to end a dispute and get rid of the desire for revenge.

If you are ready to revenge, what are the actions?

If you decided to fight back your offender be very cautious. Do not overdo anything that he or she did to you. If your neighbor makes you mad because she regularly floods your ceiling it doesn't mean you have to burn her apartment.

When choosing a way for your revenge you should not forget about the law. Sometimes people go too far and cause greater problems than they used to have before the revenge.

Your revenge should have a specific target. You should not take vengeance on everybody, and if you can not affect your offender maybe it is better just forget about it.

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Think about how other people would see you. You should not be even less-minded, ruder and savager than your offender. Would you like to have such a reputation?

If you can not predict the result of your revenge it is better to postpone the realization of your idea or maybe just leave it for good.

The main rule of all intriguers is no hurry. Revenge is a cold dish so you have less chances to make a mistake.

It is better for an offended person to forget for a moment about the overwhelming emotions . Then it would be obvious that revenge is not the only way to deal with any situation. Revenge does not only make several people suffer but also humiliates that person who tries to scheme against somebody. Really strong people always find strength to forgive or simply ignore their offender.

The significance of your values.
If you believe in trust, honor, and fidelity, and if you accept his proposal, you will be going against those values.  When you don’t honor the guiding principles in your life, you experience depression, as well as anxiety, fear, and doubt.  Any time we don’t adhere to our deeply held personal morals, we pay a price.  And it’s high.

He’s still married.
If his marriage is in jeopardy, this is something he has to work through with his wife.  Your presence only confuses the issue.  His breakup will be very costly to you emotionally if you stick around to be a part of it.  As he talks through the many aspects of his feelings about his wife in terms of what they once had, his anger or hurt, and his emotions centering on his former family, you will find that these words may haunt you for the rest of your life.  Draw a boundary and think twice about jumping in the middle of something that is his to handle. Further down the road, you’ll both be glad you did this.

The focus of what your time together will be about.
It’s one thing to be absorbed in business events and sharing mutual ideas; it’s quite another to be in a personal relationship.  Falling in love needs to be a time for two people to discover each other.  It will be difficult if not impossible for you two to see each other through the fog of guilt and family problems that are weighing on him.  What will his extended family think of you?  Will they be welcoming?  What will your family think of him knowing he is still married?  Guaranteed there will be questions about his breakup.  These reactions, opinions, and judgments will put a strain on your feelings and time together.

Answering the following questions:
Is your current life where you want it to be?  Do you have friends, financial security, and a social life without him? Honoring your present and future should be your primary concern.
During the time it takes for him to separate and finalize his divorce, what will your life be like?  Can you be honest with your friends and family?  Can you go out socially?  How often will you be the sounding board for his pain; or his therapist for his growth and insight?  Is this the job you really want?  Is this the foundation you want to build a relationship on?

I am not saying it is impossible for this relationship to have a future.  I am saying this is not the time to try and build it.  My advice is that you get fully engaged and invested in your life, doing fun outings with great friends or getting absorbed in your passionate interests.  The worst thing to do would be to stop socializing with others, sitting at home obsessing about him.

The best chance you have for this romance to survive and grow is to back away and watch from a distance…with a certain detachment.  Is he truly going to leave his marriage?  If he does and he re-surfaces later, fully divorced, free, and at least moderately healed, you both can move forward exploring your potential of being together.  Anything before that leaves you in the place of being vulnerable to being used, though that may not be his intention at all.

You have some critical issues to process, so get yourself to a coach or therapist to help you sort things out.  You need an objective voice guiding you.  If he becomes available, you would be wise to go to a counselor with him.  You can then address your future—straight from the heart.

author: Tonja Weimer

source: tonjaweimer.com

This very male type can be found even in the happiest at first sight families. The husband is not an alcoholic, he does not smoke either, he may even be a very successful breadwinner, but as for living together with him – it is a real challenge. This person is sure he knows everything, even if he knows nothing in fact. He deeply believes in his own impeccability and influence he has on family members. All other family members should obey his rules without question. He torments everybody with his constant boring lectures. The tyrant believes he takes care of his family but in fact he just needs to feel the power.

The roots of this behavior go back to the childhood. The tyrant, who always reprimands his wife and children for everything they do, must have had one of his parents with the same type of personality. He was suppressed by his parents' power and always had a wish to wreak his anger on somebody because of his crushed childhood.

The attempt to change the tyrant's way of thinking is a complete waste of time. No one can change him. Smart people stay away from that person, but what about his wife and children? They can keep silence all the time, but can it be called freedom? In that type of families children become rioters and leave their homes pretty early. Or they grow up with immature and intimidated personality, and weak will. It is them who suffer from the home tyrant. He is always displeased with everybody, his most popular phrase is “What would you do without me?” And every member of the family knows for sure it would be much easier to live without such head of the family.

Home tyrant always holds the whole family in terror and strain; it is him who throws his wife and children's mentality into disorder. Who would stand everyday lectures and constant dissatisfaction with what ever other people do? He is the only one who can do things right!

Tyrant-perfectionist thinks he is a kind of Pygmalion, who knows exactly in what way everything should be done. He is the person who decides where the children should study, what the wife should wear, where they should go on vacation. He is able to put the self-appraisal of every family member to the lowest of low. Such person is able break one's personality without any scruples...

Many wives get used to not just listening to all the continual lectures of the boring despot. Not paying attention to all his provoking remarks of high attention moments.

In this case the soul is to suffer, but in more severe case all the suffering becomes physical. The tyrant-alcoholic is always ready to fight, he only calls for disgust, his spouse and children bear humiliation. The tyrant puts the blame on them for everything and has no mercy for them. This type of families is, unfortunately, well-spread in the modest layer of population in all countries. But the level of living does not always indicate the well-being of a family atmosphere.

The best way to struggle against tyranny in a family is to divorce. But sometimes wives have no place to go; after the divorce they will have nothing left. Because of this desperation one has to live with a tyrant in the same house ruining not only her life but also the future children life. Tyrants give rise to tyrants. These children, once they have grown up, retrieve their losses by becoming despots or hysterical women. They pass on the baton of insults, shouts, beating, and fury to their children and spouses. It does not sound like love at all! And these children do feel neither love nor respect for their parents.

The cause of such despotic behavior lies deep inside. There is no inner harmony, the person is a prey to doubts about his own importance, he is always discontent with himself, his status in the society, and his behavior, and he looks for the reason somewhere outside... He is not able to understand that he is not a leader; the way to help himself starts inside him.

There is an advice to be given to home tyrants. They should find out the original cause of their fears and doubts. All the shouts and insults, dissatisfaction with everything and everybody – are just a consequence, but the reason is always inside the person.

If it turned out that you could not control your behavior again, try to lick the wounds as fast as possible – say you are sorry, and admit your fault. These actions can help to strengthen the power of the head of the family. The acknowledgment of your own guilt is the way strong people behave. The tyrant asserts himself at somebody else's expenses because he is actually weak and defenseless.

And here is one very important thing - a memo to every tyrant: do not let your inner dragons gorge neither your family life nor yourself.

Traditional oriental medicine recognizes that all illnesses arise in depths of our minds, and only after that they materialize in reality. Official medicine has recently inclined towards this very explanation of the nature of illnesses. That is why during increasing mental stresses the role of the medicines that relieve emotional strains also increases.

Depression and antidepressant drugs

Depression is a state of low mental condition, emotional dejection, feeling of hopelessness, accompanied with a bleak outlook, when nothing seems to get better; the patient is liable to fixed distressing thoughts and a loss of interest in life (which can become a reason for suicide) and sleeping disorders.

There is no single cause of depression; different factors can contribute to it, such as constant stresses, information overload, grief, etc. On the chemical level depression is provoked by deficiency of serotonin, a neurotransmitter in central nervous system that facilitates communication between nerve cells. This discovery has implemented in the development of a range of medicines for depression treatment, which were named antidepressants.

What is Prozac?

Prozac (international nonproprietary name Fluoxetine) is an antidepressant which contributes to the increase of a serotonin level, and therefore enlarges the amount of serotonin in the point of transmission of nerve impulses from one nerve cell to another. It brings moderate stimulating effect, decreases nervousness and fears, occasionally reduces appetite and can cause a weight loss. Prozac is used to treat depression; this ability is even shown in the film “Prozac Nation”, where it is Prozac that helps a young woman with her depressive disorder.

Prozac Indications

You should not take Prozac without consulting to your doctor first. It should be taken as prescribed to treat:

- Depressive disorder, after its causes are clarified;

- Panic disorder, after its causes are clarified;

- Bulimia nervosa, an eating disorder characterized by binge eating, usually “to cope” with stresses

- Drug and alcohol addiction, when the absence of alcohol and drugs causes severe depression.

Prozac Contraindications and Precautions

Prozac is an active medicine; therefore it has a number of contraindications. Prozac is not recommended for

- Anyone allergic to any ingredients of the medicine;

- Patients under 18 years old;

- Pregnant women and nursing mothers;

- Patients with epilepsy, as Prozac improves the transmission between nerve cells and as a result the intensification of convulses;

- Patients with inclination to suicide, as Prozac provokes hyperactivity and increases the risk of suicidal thinking and behavior;

- Patients with diabetes, liver and kidneys malfunctions, and weakening of bladder muscles, as Prozac can increase these phenomena;

- Patients with prostate hypertrophy, or adenoma;

- Patients with glaucoma, or raised intraocular pressure.

Is Prozac overdose possible?

Yes, it is. The overdose of this or similar medicines can cause symptoms of serotonergic syndrome: fever, shivering, mental confusion, agitation, irritable mood, nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, seizures, rapid or uneven heartbeat.

Prozac side effects

Doctors should notify their patients about side effects Prozac can occasionally cause:

On the nervous system: excess agitation, fatigability, anxiety neurosis, headaches, sleep disorders, or sleepiness, abnormal dreams (nightmares), visual acuity problems, taste perversion, enlarge pupils, abnormal thinking, tremor, movement disorders, and occasionally spasmodic seizures.

On the digestive system: dry mouth, nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, or constipation, bad appetite.

On the urogenital system: urination disorders, menstruation disorders, impotence.

On the Cardiovascular System: palpitation, orthostatic phenomena (blood pressure differences upon assuming various body postures).

On the endocrine system: glucose insufficiency.

Following allergic reactions are possible: skin eruption, pruritus (itching), nettle rash and angioneurotic edema.

It should be remembered that during Prozac treatment alcohol should be avoided, as it can cause the overdose symptoms. It is better not to take Prozac before driving a car, as the medicine can impair your concentration or reactions.

Prozac is a time-proved antidepressant, and despite of a many side effects, it can bring relief to a patient, but only under the medical supervision.

You can receive info about it and other medicines on this site

Affairs are put aside, time for love has come. You are already ready to next "session", with impatience wait for it, but there is one thin moment: you again are not assured, that will reach an orgasm. It repeats over and over again, and you do not understand, that you do not so, that dements you. But it is not necessary so strongly to worry - free to reach higher peak of love pleasure is necessary to remember some receptions which, undoubtedly, will help to test all scale of feelings which the act of love for everyone should carry.

Step №1: Adjust itself

If you are not ready to being relaxed and make love, about any orgasm cannot be and speeches. Your body, your bedroom, your brain - all should be ready to it because it is one of the main keystones to success. To you it should be convenient, comfortable is one of the main rules for pleasure achievement.

Step № 2: Grow fond of the body

The love to own body during employment by love is important at all less, than desire of a body of your partner. If you are assured of yourselves, are not confused and are not ashamed of yourself - can, it sounds and it is strange, but works, - you by all means will come nearer on one step to a treasured discharge. When you make love to the partner, present, that you do it … with yourselves. So you should concern own body.

Step №3 Be relaxed

Time has come to go to a bedroom. Release the head from all problems and think only that you and your favorite person will fall in embraces each other and begin to spin in love whirlpool. The less you think, the will reach the culmination moment is easier. If to be relaxed completely to you it is hard, there is nothing bad in that before it to drink a glass of wine which will liberate you.

Step №4 Reveal

For certain you heard, that the woman during sex should accept a pose of the dismissed flower. It is the most true way to an orgasm - to reveal and be relaxed, completely opening to the partner without a confusion drop. The only thing that should be in your head during this moment is a pleasure which you test, indulging in love joys, and it is more than anything.

Any disturbances of a menstrual cycle signal that in an organism of the woman there has come any failure. Some women, consider, that it is possible to arrange this failure independently by means of tablets or folk remedies. For example, it is necessary to go on the sea, and here such trouble, as menstruation. But after all we now have so much medicines - really nothing can be made?

The menstrual cycle is a hormonal background of the woman

By means of a menstrual cycle the organism prepares for possible pregnancy. It is very difficult process in which all endocrine system of an organism takes part.

All changes in an organism during a menstrual cycle commands a brain in which organs (a hypothalamus and a pituitary gland) which allocate the hormones regulating all cycle are located.

On a hypothalamus depends, how many it will be allocated hormones by all interested hormonal system. The hypothalamus is very sensitive to stresses and any other psychological influences, therefore stresses cause disturbances of a menstrual cycle in some women.

In a hypothalamus data from all organism about a disadvantage or redundancy of hormones arrive. After the analysis of the received information the hypothalamus gives a command to the gland also located in a brain - a pituitary gland which controls activity of ovaries, allocating gonadotrophic hormones - follicle-stimulating (influences growth and follicle maturing in which the ovum) and luteinizing (promoting an ovulation - to that the follicle bursts develops, and the ripened ovum gets to a fallopian tube).

Besides, the pituitary body gives a command to ovaries, formation of an ovum and its preparation for a fertilization (one cycle - one ovum, alternately in each of ovaries) there begins. The ripening follicle develops a female sexual hormone estrogen.

The follicle grows and, reaching approximately 20 mm, are broken off, and the ovum passes in a fallopian tube to be bridged there to a spermatozoon. The external cover an ovum gets yellow color (a yellow body) and starts to develop a female sexual hormone progesterone. Estrogen and progesterone, getting to blood, prepare an organism for possible pregnancy. The yellow body develops within two weeks, then (if pregnancy has not come) - resolves, level of hormones in blood decreases, the prepared endometrium is torn away, causing a menstrual bleeding.

Under the influence of some factors (stresses, exercise stresses, poisonings) the yellow body sometimes continues to function, forming a cyst which detains a menses. But when the cyst breaks, the menses begins, and together with it the new menstrual cycle is counted.

On this basis work of hormonal contraceptives is constructed: they stimulate in the beginning development of hormones, then (at the termination of reception of tablets) sharply her break, causing a bleeding.

What is the amenorrhea

The amenorrhea is an absence menstruation within 6 months and more at the age of 16-45 years. The amenorrhea at this age is a sign of disturbance of hormonal system of the woman at any level and is accompanied by Infertility. The amenorrhea can be primary (menstruation was never) and secondary (menstruation were, but have stopped). The primary amenorrhea often arises at absence (genetically caused underdevelopment of hormonal system) or a delay of sexual development of the girl (after serious diseases and stresses).

The secondary amenorrhea can arise against serious diseases (for example, a tuberculosis or a heart disease), poisonings, abusing alcohol, a defective food, stresses, various diseases of glands of internal secretion.

As the amenorrhea is treated

Amenorrhea treatment consists in carrying out of a cyclic hormone replacement therapy. Therefore, before to be treated, it is necessary to establish, at what level of hormonal system there was a failure and why it has occurred. The quantity of hormones in blood is for this purpose defined and full inspection for an exception, first of all, tumours and cysts which are subject to surgical treatment is spent. Only after that it is possible to begin treatment by hormones. Cycles of hormone therapy are spent within 3-4 months, and then repeat with 1-2 monthly break for a long time.

Whether it is possible to cause premature menstruation "at will"?

If you have attentively read all about a menstrual cycle and about an amenorrhea already understand, that at a modern level of development of pharmacology it is quite accessible. Whether here only it is necessary to force down a menstrual cycle simply because of desire to go on the sea? After all anybody to you cannot guarantee, that it then will completely be restored. The human body, especially, an organism of the woman is a “high-precision device”, to bring down it from normal activity simply, and here to restore - very difficultly. If to look the summary to application of hormonal contraceptives it is possible to see, that the oldest pharmaceutical firms give there instructions on application of preparations for all occasions. Why? Yes because all these cases are checked already up at clinical tests. And if you start to operate independently anybody to you does not guarantee anything.

Do not try to change the menstrual cycle under the influence of momentary interests - thus it is possible to suffer very strongly.

Only do not say that with you it don't happen.... There is a statistics whom sexologists reluctantly share: 10 % of all orgasms - artificial, or imitated. But women to you will tell, that actually this number where is more impressive. What for it is necessary? Than it is fraught? Whether notice men, what them deceive? Whether the "artificial" orgasm harms to the simulator?

On these and some other questions we will try to find answers. And suddenly our express research to someone will help to draw necessary conclusions?

Why and for what women feign an orgasm?

That it has fast ended. The most widespread cause. The imitated orgasm is used to urge forward the man, to stimulate him visually and to give the "incontestable" proof of that with the part of work the man has consulted, it is time to receive and the part of pleasure. Probably, the woman did not want affinity, probably, she has agreed on it under the pressure of any circumstances. Probably, at her the child is sick and she listens to his cough which is distributed from the next room. Probably, she had a difficult day, serious night, unsuccessful week, bad change, protection has broken or the life truth - not very well was discovered. The main thing that after duties in the world external - on work, in a society, still somewhere - she has come to the small world and has faced, besides, duties! The conjugal duty at the majority of our fragile ladies consists in combination of mass of duties on kitchen, in a nursery, in a bedroom. The woman is simply obliged to be the head cook, good mother and the passionate mistress! Otherwise: excuse, the darling... After all so it is possible suddenly to cease to correspond and... Also what "and"? You wish to live all life «here so»? In a circle of the duties, which nominally pleasant but from which to refuse you have no right? Forcing - not rape, but something very similar.

I do not wish to offend. He was such the darling so tried - flowers, a supper, candles, the most romantic words, refined caresses. But after all he is not guilty, that I do not have mood! Or not, not so: I should award him for all diligence! Easier speaking, it is dishonest. Though, according to some women, all is quite fair: he played interest, she played passion. Everyone has received that wanted

She simply frigid silly woman! Once the woman somewhere has heard it. Perhaps in a film, can, from one of the lovers, can, she has reached before by long reflexions. The low sex culture of the majority of the population of region where in due time there was no sex, assumes, that rather sex woman should want sex day and night, all time, without rests and stoppings. Her eyes shine, the mouth is is invocatory slightly opened, a hair a silk mane goes down on shoulders, dactyls nervously something fingers... In general, such individual in the market of female meat is appreciated above, than any another. A question in, whether you wish to rise in well-disposed ranks of the clones, aspiring yourself to sell more expensively and using for this purpose everything though actor's game, or nevertheless collect to live life by itself and in an own body. And nobody says, that will be easy.

Whether notice men, what them deceive?

Well, not all and not always. The matter is that each orgasm and each person - is unique. It means, that your today's, two hundred thirty fifth under the account, the orgasm differs from all previous. And its physiological exhibitings too. Many men search in female explosions of passion for that uncontrollable vagina spasms, fluid streams, red maculae (yes, and such happens) on a breast. These signs they consider true, all the rest for them - lie, lie and once again lie. Probably, after read the burial service the simulator the similar man - the second extreme measure. True, as usual, somewhere in the middle.

Whether similar imitation harms to the woman?

Unfortunately, yes. And physiologically - the sex discharge, and psychologic - a habit to be lazy is necessary for the woman all the same, even in bed and to mask the senses, to depress desires in what good cannot result. At the started forms - perennial simulations - the partner or guesses, or subconsciously feels a discord. And it is bad and is fraught.

So, can, nevertheless to be fair? Always, even if the truth is unpleasant also abandoning can deliver someone inconveniences?

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This question sets sooner or later each woman, especially if over and over again she attack the same rake, a name which - a mysterious man's soul. Certainly, its some understanding comes to us with life experience. And than this experience is more sad, especially we bear from it valuable. What to do? Such is a law of nature. However, not only women struggle with this riddle. Many great minds tried to solve essence man's, as, in general, and the female nature ...

From love to hatred...

Zigmund Freud considered, that the world two instincts - sex and aggressive correct. Also there would be in all it no problem, if restrictions not imposed by a society on their exhibitings. From here both ideas of a monogamy and an appeal «love near as itself»... However, all it is impossible instinctive life. But as the person - a being social the society demands of him suppression of instincts. Laws are with that end in view framed and ideals and moral values are formed.

As to sex and aggressive instincts of men to hold them «in frameworks» it is framed and the marriage institute is sustained, and also there is such socially comprehensible mean of realization of aggressive energy, as sports.

One of Freud Jacque Lakan's the famous followers object of desire of the man named, naturally, the woman. But the woman escaping - than more escaping, especially desired (bright demonstration of this phenomenon the film great a Buñuel «That Obscure Object of Desire» is). The Same Lacan argued that love kills desire as as deification of love consider coalescence to that whom love. To take, for example, a figure of the Fine Lady sung by romanticists. There is nothing more terribly for the man, than satisfaction of the desire referred on her. The paradox of attitudes with it is a constant putting off of love attitudes on then. These attitudes last only thanking their delaying...

The power and money

Some psychologists and philosophers, unlike Freud, educed idea of presence in a human nature of one more instinct - aspirations to the power. It is possible to consider as the main apologists of it F.Nitsshe and M.Heidegger. Since the most ancient times the success, force, honouring, riches are considered as power synonyms... Already in a primitive society the leader had the best meal and the most beautiful concubines. Here and today very few people from men will refuse to visit his "skin" and to take a worthy place under the sun.

Work for the modern man where he aspires to realize one of the major requirements - "divide and rule" - the same hunting for a mammoth where he can prove, show the dexterity, play in a command and prove to everything, that something costs, having received as a trophy a worthy large sum.

As become men

«The woman is sex», - the given statement belongs all to the same

founder of a psychoanalysis. That is, it is considered, that the connatural problem of the woman - to open the sex, all its potential possibilities which essence are functions inherent only in women, such as a menses, pregnancy, childbirth, feeding by a breast... At the man is little bit more complex. It sex should be generated. Actually, to become the man, it needs to pass certain tests in which process he is completely identified with the mission. Throughout all history of mankind it is possible to find set of examples of how it descended. As a rule, in any society there are own rituals and institutes initiations, that is methods «dedication in courage». And if in primitive tribes participation of boys in hunting on the same level with adult men today to the world of men it is possible to consider as the form of familiarizing of young men service in army was such ritual, for example...

However, riddles of man's psychology still remain riddles for women how they tried to comprehend them by reading of the scientific literature and on own experience. And can be, it is not necessary to spend so many forces for learning "incognizable"? After all us pulls to each other just because we so different. And there, where one of us has "camber", another should have "concavity" - not only at body level, but also at soul level. At least by a principle of mutual conformity and addition of parts at formation of the whole...